My husband is 27 years old and i am 25, we met 4 years ago, he was blocking the cars in the middle of streets, everyone was yelling at him to move, he was confused and lost so i jumped in and helped him. That is how we got together, long story short. He is blind since birth and sees nothing. He is tall guy and very cute, he is so cute i cant stop hugging, kissing and squeezing him. He was very lonely, well me too.
He was very insecure, all the girls would dump him sooner or later because he is blind, so at start he couldn't believe me that i want to be with him. He is master of accordion, plays it in some orchestra, so he has a job.
I could spend days sitting in his lap letting him to touch my face and body, he tells me "Let me see you, and then pulls down his fingers down my face and body, most beautiful feeling i get. When we sleep, he would hug me by arms and legs and sleep like that, he expresses himself by touching.
Now the problem showed up around one month ago, some thugs blocked our way in the park, they took away my wallet, and they started abusing me, so he started swinging his stick, but they did beat the hell out of him. I was screaming like crazy so some people showed up and so the thugs fled. He is okay now, at least his body is okay, but his manhood is hurt, a lot. He is mad at himself for being "useless" in that situation.
For entire month he keeps calling himself names, he calls himself "Mistake of nature." "Useless bat". Those name calling he does to himself hurt me. He started to hate himself. He avoids hugging thing, when we sleep he turns towards the wall and keeps away from me. When i initiate sex he would accept but not enjoy it, just like a robot. He even once asked me to divorce him and find a useful husband and he would add "Don't worry about me, i will console myself by accordion, they brainwashed me anyway to think that accordion can be way to happiness." Then he would laugh at that. He keeps leaving the house without his guide dog or stick. And i think he would step at the road for cars on purpose. And he was even once beaten by one driver who apologized when he saw that my husband is blind. He even came to me to apologize once more, he told me that when he released that he is beating a blind man and when he stopped it, my husband was laughing and yelling to continue the beating an d kept telling that we are all equal and that doesn't want pity that he is sick of it. I tried many ways to tell him that i love him and that everything is okay but it didn't work. I feel that distance between us is growing. He even started to drink alcohol, and he never did that before. That thing with the thugs just crossed some line in my husband's mind, and now all the negative thing that he experienced in his life are coming out. Some neighbors told me that he yells at them if they offer him help. The only living being he keeps being close to is his guide dog, i followed them once, he goes deep in to some near by forest with his guide dog and plays his accordion there alone, or rolls down the fall with the dog, like some kid. I told him that i followed him, he yelled at me, that he is not a baby, doesn't need a supervision and that wants to be alone. Once i even mention therapist, he told me "Now i am not only blind, i am crazy too?" Didn't want to speak to me for entir e day. He stopped hanging out with the few good friends he had, he acts like he hates entire world now. Many girls hit on him on the street under excuse to help him, he would rudely show them his marriage ring and walk away. Well this part i like. haha
I love him very much, but this last month, he is acting so strange, i cant follow it. Don't know what to do... I am also kinda scared for him and for our marriage... He was kind and completely normal person, now he just exploded. Don't know what to do...
Today I have found out that he has been buying pills for sleeping. They were in a place in which i assume he was trying to hide those pills. He never needed those. What if he tries to commit suicide? I asked him about the pills, i even cried, he only said that everything is fine and then he just walked away outside. Before these crises, if i cry he would hug me, but now not. He scares the hell out of me.
He acts really weirdly. I found his sleeping pills he never used before, he refused sex, and he never does that. I've heard him chanting to his dog that he is tired of darkness, did that silently, he thought he was alone... This is turning out to be scary for me...
He was very insecure, all the girls would dump him sooner or later because he is blind, so at start he couldn't believe me that i want to be with him. He is master of accordion, plays it in some orchestra, so he has a job.
I could spend days sitting in his lap letting him to touch my face and body, he tells me "Let me see you, and then pulls down his fingers down my face and body, most beautiful feeling i get. When we sleep, he would hug me by arms and legs and sleep like that, he expresses himself by touching.
Now the problem showed up around one month ago, some thugs blocked our way in the park, they took away my wallet, and they started abusing me, so he started swinging his stick, but they did beat the hell out of him. I was screaming like crazy so some people showed up and so the thugs fled. He is okay now, at least his body is okay, but his manhood is hurt, a lot. He is mad at himself for being "useless" in that situation.
For entire month he keeps calling himself names, he calls himself "Mistake of nature." "Useless bat". Those name calling he does to himself hurt me. He started to hate himself. He avoids hugging thing, when we sleep he turns towards the wall and keeps away from me. When i initiate sex he would accept but not enjoy it, just like a robot. He even once asked me to divorce him and find a useful husband and he would add "Don't worry about me, i will console myself by accordion, they brainwashed me anyway to think that accordion can be way to happiness." Then he would laugh at that. He keeps leaving the house without his guide dog or stick. And i think he would step at the road for cars on purpose. And he was even once beaten by one driver who apologized when he saw that my husband is blind. He even came to me to apologize once more, he told me that when he released that he is beating a blind man and when he stopped it, my husband was laughing and yelling to continue the beating an d kept telling that we are all equal and that doesn't want pity that he is sick of it. I tried many ways to tell him that i love him and that everything is okay but it didn't work. I feel that distance between us is growing. He even started to drink alcohol, and he never did that before. That thing with the thugs just crossed some line in my husband's mind, and now all the negative thing that he experienced in his life are coming out. Some neighbors told me that he yells at them if they offer him help. The only living being he keeps being close to is his guide dog, i followed them once, he goes deep in to some near by forest with his guide dog and plays his accordion there alone, or rolls down the fall with the dog, like some kid. I told him that i followed him, he yelled at me, that he is not a baby, doesn't need a supervision and that wants to be alone. Once i even mention therapist, he told me "Now i am not only blind, i am crazy too?" Didn't want to speak to me for entir e day. He stopped hanging out with the few good friends he had, he acts like he hates entire world now. Many girls hit on him on the street under excuse to help him, he would rudely show them his marriage ring and walk away. Well this part i like. haha
I love him very much, but this last month, he is acting so strange, i cant follow it. Don't know what to do... I am also kinda scared for him and for our marriage... He was kind and completely normal person, now he just exploded. Don't know what to do...
Today I have found out that he has been buying pills for sleeping. They were in a place in which i assume he was trying to hide those pills. He never needed those. What if he tries to commit suicide? I asked him about the pills, i even cried, he only said that everything is fine and then he just walked away outside. Before these crises, if i cry he would hug me, but now not. He scares the hell out of me.
He acts really weirdly. I found his sleeping pills he never used before, he refused sex, and he never does that. I've heard him chanting to his dog that he is tired of darkness, did that silently, he thought he was alone... This is turning out to be scary for me...
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