I enjoy my "old fashioned" marriage, why don't other women?

Hello all! This is my first post so bear with me if I ramble. I guess I was inspired to do this first discussion because of an incident I saw this weekend. A little background information, I'm 25 and I've been married to my wonderful husband for almost 7 years. My husband truly is my best friend and I'm happy to see him every single day. I guess you can say we are in a "old fashioned" relationship as far as gender roles go. I stay home and do all the cooking and cleaning, and the majority of the child care (unless I'm hurt or sick then he tries to take my place lol). My husband works a long 8-9 hour day in a factory and handles our finances, bills, and all the handy work around the house. And we're not overly religious, so that has nothing to do with our views on gender roles. I very much enjoy having a role in our marriage and I believe we have a strong one because of it. My husband rushes home to see me everyday, rarely ever wants to go out without me and our daughter, and even takes a few vacation days off a year just to stay home with me all day. There is no fighting about who is going to do what, because we're not both so tired from going to work. My husband opens doors for me, handles all the heavy "man work" and treats me like a lady. In return I respect him and try hard to make him feel like a leader and a man. My question is why don't other wives try to do the same? My husband works with a lot of married men at his factory and he is always telling me how they just hate their marriages. They're shocked to even hear that my husband gets home cooked meals every night. Their wives work long hours and by the time they do see each other they're exhausted and want almost nothing to do with them. Maybe it's just me but I think having gender roles in a marriage is very helpful. I've heard the excuse that women need to work outside the home because they need to help pay the bills. Well my husband only makes about 25k a year and we make it work with no government assistance or help from family members, we just don't splurge on things we don't need. Or that women want to feel independent, but I feel if you want to be independent you shouldn't get married in the first place, it's a partnership not a selfish thing. Earlier I mentioned the incident that I overheard this weekend, at a salon I went to. A husband and wife were taking their children to get their haircut for school and the husband misheard the name of the stylist. And when he said the wrong name, in front of everyone in the waiting area his wife said "God you're such a retard, you always have to embarrass me" The tone of her voice was serious and she looked like she could of just slapped him. He just replied with "Oh okay yea I'm sorry" to her. I just couldn't believe that she would even speak to her husband that way, and in front of strangers. I could only imagine the things she says to him behind closed doors. I see more and more wives that disrespect their husbands like this everyday. I'm just wondering if maybe they have gotten a little too independent and feel they can treat their husbands like crap. I don't usually tell people this stuff because I get the "oh you're a doormat to your husband", But that's not the case at all. I actually enjoy my job as a wife and mom. I know some cases men are pigs and don't deserve this kind of treatment (if my husband treated me like anything less than a lady I wouldn't even be married to him). But I always see good husbands being treated terribly and just thought I could vent about this. I'm just wondering if more marriages would stay together if maybe we went back to a more traditional marriage when it comes to husbands and wives. I know that I've been married almost 7 years and I'm only 25 and have had no problems with mine, when people 10-15 years older than me who have been married for less and are on their first or second divorce. Just would love to hear other peoples view on this.

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