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Paying the price of achieving something - did things go your way?

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I did well for my degree (gained a First) which I worked my arse off. But looking back, I wished I had worked or gained some experience working in the industry whilst studying for my degree; I do know that that would be atrociously difficult but at least I can get "X working experience" on my resume which would help me to get a better (paying) job and "climb the ladder" faster. I was too focus on theory and lack the actual industrial experience, which I only gained the latter during my attachment year (which was during the final year). I also didn't bother looking at pay-scales or even salaries before. It took me a year to realised that I was severely underpaid, and of course I wasn't too happy about it.

I don't know really; a First probably did help me get the job that I want or probably did open some doors for me but after skimming through resumes, I actually don't give £0.2 if the candidate has a First unless he's a fresh graduate; the industries want experience and justifications if you want to get a job with them.

The title of the thread is generic but this is something relevant to me at the moment; but I believe it resonates with a lot of TSR users as well. Also, I think this thread is just venting on my part. So if you want to share your experience, please go ahead.

Any input or views are appreciated.

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Starting a relationship with my best friends sister

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Me and my friend are both 19 and his sister is 16. We have known each other since we were both around 5 years old. This meant that I have also known his younger sister since she was young. We have always got on well and when she was growing up she did start flirting but I never returned it. Last week some guys were picking on her in the street. They smashed her phone and went to take her purse but I saw them and stepped in and helped her. She was obviously shaken up so I offered to take her home. When we got back to hers the house was empty so she asked me to stay with her until someone got home because she was scared so I agreed.

My friend was staying over his girlfriends and parents were working. We just stayed up watching films and trying to take her mind off what had happened. Her parents phoned saying they would be out overnight so my friends sister asked me to stay the night. I agreed but after a while she started crying so I gave her a hug and she was thanking me. She then leaned in to kiss me. I pulled away and told her she didn't know what she was doing but she leaned in again. This time I responded and kissed her back. Since then we have been meeting up in secret and just hanging out and having fun. We haven't had sex yet, kissing is as far as it's gone but we both love being in each others company and just relaxing watching films.

Now she wants to go public with the relationship but I don't know how my friend will respond and part of time thinks what we are doing is wrong. My friend and his family have been grateful to me for helping her but I think they will think I am taking advantage of her because of what happened even though I'm not
What do you think we should do and do you think what we are doing is wrong?

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Do's and Don'tswith British girls?

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Im from Turkey however ive lived in many countries for several years each and i am aware that although most things dont differ, girls and their expectations have alterations from country to country. id say Brazilians in general are very relaxed and like everything kinda straight forward. So what would you recommend a dude who has no experience with British girls at all to do and not do? any thing that's like a straight up nono except from the VERY obv things.dont go and say rape pls

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Does rejecting guys become routine

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So it's guys who most often have to pluck up courage and put egos on the line. Do girls feel some empathy when rejecting guys who ask them out, or does it become a routine administrative process?

Were i in the lucky situation to have girls asking me out I wouldn't like saying no even if I wasn't particularly up for it, just because I know what it's like to hope and to ask.

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Girls, how do you remove hair from 'down there'?

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I need advice since I avoid razors or cream because I don't want to cut or burn myself but I hate the feeling of hair down there! I've never tried a professional wax because I'm scared it will be extremely painful and it might swell up or I might get an infection or something. Also I'm a little embarrassed about being so exposed :S

Any recommendations? :)

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does she like me ? or just being friendly?

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looks at me a lot
smiles at me
laughs at my jokes
iniates conversation - starts talking to me 1st and asks me questions
put lipstick on infront of me
nipped my back
charged into back of my chair at work
told me other guys are after her
called me babe a few times
waited for me to finish work and walked up with me
waved at me a few times
shouts my name when she sees me
tried to sneak up on me at work and scare me
she randomly gets things for me at work if i need them
during our text messages she says haha a lot, uses exclamation marks and says longer words like hhiiiiiii
yesterday was her bday and i wrote a poem on her wall, she said she loved it, and she read it to her family and they were all creased, then she said thanks pal with a love heart and exclamation marks

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Girlfriend or no?

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I'm 16 virgin
One part of me wants to get a girlfriend in college have a bit of fun etc... Another wants me to concentrate on my A-levels and do well in school and also nervous as I have never actually had a girlfriend although I do get plenty of offers and hear girls talking to each other about having crushes on me so idk. I'm doing maths chem bio physics at a level so get a girlfriend or no?

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Why is it considered "insecure" to compliment other girls on how they look?

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me and my friends do this all the time, sometimes i'm nice to other girls too and ask where someone got her henna done or whatever. i dont like cattiness/being a bitch

However my sister and brother say it makes me seem "insecure." I dont see how though I'm just being nice?? :confused::confused:

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How do you move on from ex 'friends'

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We met and straight away got on- never awkward which was weird for me being such a shy person. We hung out a lot and she really brought me out of my shell. We were loud and funny and weird and got into a lot of trouble and had fun like kids do. I got sick. I couldn't really talk to her about it but she could tell. It was like I was poison, a disease- as soon as she knew what I was doing she did it do. It was like some weird little cult between us. We didn't talk about it much. But the crimson lines on suddenly prominent bones gave it away. We got drunk and hooked up with each other at parties a lot. We were so close but not in the right way. We were like the same person we did everything together I forgot my other friends and I was always there for her when she needed me. But whenever I needed her she wasn't there. I think I screwed her up, with being the way I was. Fast forward and things are getting different. She has other friends too but I had isolated myself with only ever being with her. I was mad because suddenly she wasn't putting me first anymore, she'd forgotten me. We aren't friends anymore. I loved her and I love her and I miss her but I know our friendship was toxic. But she was such a huge part of me. I'm mad at her for leaving me behind but I know it was only because I couldn't keep up. I still love her.

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Are you closer to uni or school friends?

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After uni which friends did you stay in better contact with? Or if you're at uni now which friends do you feel closer to?

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How to win my girlfriend back?

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Jesus Christ is the SON of GOD & promises you eternal life if you simply believe HIM. He promised to also heal your body. (Just ask Him)

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Does she like the attention all of her?

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So I know a girl (who has a bf) we get on great but if I talk to another girl we know she seems to perhaps get a little jealous. I have noticed that afterwards she overly talks to me, like won't stop and let me get away lol. The thing is she brings up celebrity girls for me to look at and she talks about them saying how attractive they are, I was going somewhere she asked if girls will be there, if I mention I might get 'pulled' by a girl and never come back (joke) she doesn't respond and just looks at me in a weird way with a 'wtf' face lol.does she just like the attention all on her?

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I'm confused

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I can't remember experiencing any sexual attraction towards anyone. I have no problem with finding people physically attractive but I've never really thought about having sex with them. I don't think sex is weird and I'm not a prude and I like the idea of sex and I often think about it but when I do it's rarely about me having sex and generally about others(people that I don't personally know). I do know that I do eventually want to have sex, for the experience but I can't say I've ever really felt sexually driven. I've also never had a relationship because I've never really cared or found anyone that I've been attracted to enough, however it's probably something I would want in the future.

Would this be considered 'normal'?
I'm in my late teens if anyone wants to know

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TSR hook ups

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Just wondering whether anyone on here has met someone on this site and got together with them, either hooked up or got into a relationship?

and if so was it worth it?

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Should I get divorced?

Before I begin to narrate,I'd like to apologize for my English in advance.I'm not a native speaker and I've only been studying English for 2 years.

Me(41) and my wife(40) have been married for 6 years now.We have 2 daughters(16 and 8).Me and my wife have known each other since High School.That's where we fell in love with each other.She was one of the so called "cool kids" and i was one of the kids who couldn't fit in because was different from the rest of the pack so to speak.I remember how much my wife was desired by all the boys.She had many boyfriends but ended up loving me because she's always said that me being different was the one quality that she really liked about me and she said she'd always thought i bring more qualities to the table.So ours is/was true love.We've always gotten along and it's always been great except for when it comes to the bedroom.I guess I've never been good enough for her.Even in the beginning,the first time we had it,she said it was amazing but ffs i could tell she was lying.One time i asked her to be brutally honest with me about it.She said I quote:"Look,you know i love you so much and that has nothing to do with sex but in terms of sex you're not as good as some of my exes...but i don't want them,just you and you're not even that bad" and the she hugged me.Ever since that point on,I've been trying different methods to satisfy her in the bedroom such as roleplay,toys and whatnot and i think she enjoyed our reinvigorated sex life a little bit better this way but i could just tell i sucked.Me and her both work.I'm a flight attendant and she's a kindergarten teacher.She looks after children including ours as they go to the same kindergarten she works in.Lately,she's been acting a bit suspicious.She's been spending more time on the phone than usual.Since i'm the jealous type and I'm obviously not giving her what she needs,i started thinking she's having an affair.When she went to take a shower,i took her laptop in an attempt to find out if she had an ****** maddison account or a match dot com account and luckily,she didn't have any accounts of that nature.As a matter of fact her browser history was filled with facebook links which i accecced snd because she's always logged in i could read her messages snd see her posts etc. and luckily,no signs of cheating were shown.It was all good.So i thought to myself,she was speaking to some colleague or a friend and besides that,my wife has put on some weight,she wears glasses now,she's not that high school chick any more so nog many men would like her and she's a responsible woman after all.1 week later,though,my world was shaken to its foundations.I was just returning home from work when i overheard my wife's phone call.She was speaking to one of her ex boyfriends from high school,perhaps the one she liked the best before she fell in love with me as he had aspirations to be a rugby player and had a great physique.His name is Jack.I was shocked that they still kept in touch after so many years.I couldn't wait to confront my wife about her conversation with him but i couldn't because she h ad to go.I was so jealous,i thought i'd follow her because it was Sunday,her only day off.I drove behind her.Surprisingly,she pulled over near some hotel.She went inside.I waited for a few minutes,then went in as well.I asked the guy at the reception about my wife.Unfortunately,he couldn't give me this type of information.He ended up telling me that to the best of his knowledge,she comes here three times a week and apparently the guy knew what was happening so instead of bye he said:"goodluck!".I was shocked.I wanted to believe that something else was happening but it was pretty apparent.The phone call,the hotel,everything.I was able to connect the dots-my wife was having an affair with her ex boyfriend from school.I went back home and bursted into tears.One of our kids was there and tried to console me and asked me what was going on.She was ruining a marriage that was allegedly based on love.She said it herself,she only wants me and no one else.Maybe,it's my fault that i ca n'tv satisfy her needs but what happened a week later nearly killed me.I'd been pondering this whole situation for a whole week.I decided not to confront my wife but catch her in the act instead.On Friday,i talked to my friend John about this.He adviced me to set up cameras around the house like in many videos that they do and post online about their wives getting caught.At first i thought it was crazy but he convinced me it was a good idea.He helped me rent 3 high quality cameras and all the equipment and also helped me set them up and hide them well while my wife was at work,or doing what she was doing in that hotel.Since my wife didn't know John,i told her he invited me to his wedding on Sunday so i'd be away the whole day.So,on Sunday,me and John went to his place and turned on his laptop and observed what was happening throughout the day.At first we thought,she'd take off to that hotel again and wouldn't bring him home(which is what we were hoping for).At around 4:30pm my wife went to the bedroom,took off all of her clothes and to my surprise,opened my wardrobe and put on one of my shirts and one of my ties and nothing else.The kids were not there,I quickly gave the older one a call to find out where they were.They were sent to their grandparents'.I was so angry at this moment so i started cussing out my wife.5 mins later,another man(Jack) came in our bedroom,they started kissing,they later on moved in our own marital bed.It was a horrific scene for me.I watched them have sex for a couple of hours and as ugly as this will sound,in the end my wife gave him a blowjob and let him cum in her mouth.When I thought it couldn't get any worse,i heard her say i quote:"I haven't done this since High School,Jack.I haven't swallowed since then and i love your ****" and then she kept blowing him.She went on for ages.He came again,this time on her tits and because she has long hair,it got in her hair too.Some landed on my shirt and stained it.My friend John tried to prevent me from watching a couple of times but i insisted on watching.I was crushed down and i can't even begin to explain how i was feeling.He was laughing like a sick bastard and was asking her questions about me or as he was referring to me-her poor hubby.He was asking her questions along tje lines of:Am i bigger than him,better than him? to which she responded with a Yes but the one question that stood out the most is the one i could never get over.He said i quote:"Are you gonna kiss your poor hubby with this mouth later without brushing your teeth?" to which she didn't respond with an answer but with a loud giggle and then continued to give him a blowjob for another 10 mins.Then i watched them get dressed.I decided to hurry back to home before she'd already cleaned up.I got home just in the nick of time.She was still in my shirt,the bed sheets were crumpled.There were remnants of sperm on her lips and on her left cheek.I'd seen enough.She started sobbing a nd apologizing through tears.I left the house and haven't returned home ever since.She's been messaging me and calling me.In a text message she explained why she did it-she needed good sex and i wasn't giving it to her and obviously said she'd never do it again and was begging me for forgiveness.Come to think of it,part of it is my fault but she crossed the line.She's a married woman.She can't do that any more.I have a video of her cheating on me at my disposal so i believe that if i consulted with a lawyer i'd be avle to get a divorce without a problem.I'm almost convinced to file for divorce but the reason why i say almost is because ofnour daughters.If I actuate this process,it could be detrimental to our kids,it could devastate them.I don't know what to do any more.All I know is that I don't love my wife any more.

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