Is it to late with this girl I have feelings for?

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Is it to late with this girl I have feelings for?

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I worked with a girl last year and we got on pretty well in person and also texted each other everyday. However, after i moved jobs (after 6 months) we gradually starting talking less and things didn't move forward. I eventually asked her out and she said yes but things didn't materialise.

Since then I stopped contacting her as I thought it was probably best to leave things. However at times I still find myself thinking about this girl and what may have been. I'm tempted to message her although after a year i'm not sure if its really a good idea. Part of me thinks it's probably best to give it a shot, however I aways put it off. NORMALLY i will just ask girls out no problem, however because of the build up to this and the fact I feel I may have missed the window, i'm reluctant.

What would you do?? any advice greatly appreciated.

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Boyfriends mum making my life a misery

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Boyfriends mum making my life a misery

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anyone else had this ? My boyfriend is an only child and his parents had him late in life so you get the picture. His mother always tries to put barriers up when we meet ie ringing me when we went away for the weekend last month and told me he didn't really want to go and was only going to please me ! I try to be civil with her and if I raise the issue with my boyfriend he says oh it's just my mum . She even interferes when we are at uni and says to me has too much work to have time for a girlfriend ! Help, don't want it to split us up but it gets to me

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University and STIs

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University and STIs

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Okay, so I'm about to start university in September and I am aware that time at university is well known for being a time when you can really have fun. I don't know if it's just something that's blown out of proportion but I am kinda worried about the risk of catching an STI. Obviously I'm not stupid and I understand the need to use condoms and have regular check ups etc. But what about the risk of condoms splitting or transfer of STI via oral? Is there a real need to be worried or am I being silly? What is your experience with this?

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What's wrong with me?

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What's wrong with me?

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Today I was out shopping with my mum and as we entered the shopping centre I walked slightly further away from my mum to get out of the crowds. After I had got away from the crowd I stopped and waited for my mum. Ahead of me were a group of young men or boys in this case. As they walked closer towards me they all shouted ginger. I'm a girl and I'm 16 and have long straight ginger hair all the way down my back. I'm also only 5'3, petite and small breasted(32a) which has also always made me feel very unconfident about my overall appearance. What I'm really asking is do men actually hate ginger and do they hate small breasts because all I seem to hear is that men only want big breasts and that's it. I don't think I could ever take my bra off in front of someone if I actually ever got a boyfriend :(
So, can someone actually tell me the truth?:(
Plus I've never had a boyfriend and no one has ever expressed any interest in me either

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Is it bad that I literally have a **** bank?

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Is it bad that I literally have a **** bank?

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On my phone I have loads of saved pictures of the hottest girls I know. I get them off facebook and instagram and choose the ones where they're in as little clothing as possible, plus a few closer face shots. I crop them to get the best view/to remove any guys or ugly girls.

Is this weird?

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21 and i have absolutely no friends but starting uni in september

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21 and i have absolutely no friends but starting uni in september

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I used to have 5 friends from my teens but that quickly fiddled out and they weren't the people I thought they was.
So I have no friends, when I say no friends I mean absolutely NO ONE. I don't go out at all because I have no one to go out with and I have zero social networking except TSR, before I was depressed especially since my dad always liked to mention things like "oh people your age are out on a Friday night having fun but you're always home" making me feel even worse but as months passed I got over it.

So I start uni in September and plan on making friends will my lack of social network affect that ?, I mean I currently have none and people here will probably say oh just make one, but I have no one to add on it so it will be pointless.

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How to stay friends with a girl that "rejected" you.

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How to stay friends with a girl that "rejected" you.

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I made a thread last week. To summarise, I had a purely platonic relationship with a girl: we are best friends. I never had any romantic feelings for her for many months but developed it along the way.

I told her how I felt about her. She was shocked and told me she has never felt that way about me: she said sees me like her elder brother (even though I'm slightly younger, hahaha). I asked if it's a rejection. She said it's not a rejection and that I'm leaving to another uni anyway (and she feels LDRs don't work). I told her she was sugar-coating the rejection so that I don't feel bad. But she said she wasn't.

Anyway, I have moved on from my romantic feelings for her. However, I feel guilty for expressing my feelings and I feel the balance of friendship might shift. And we would lose our closeness.

She's a very good friend and I don't want to lose her. How do I rebuild the friendship/ make it stronger.

PS: Please, don't advise me to cut contact. I won't. I know myself and I know I won't feel the pain even if she gets with another guy.

I'll meet up with her soon. How do I make her feel comfortable around me?

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guys, do you pick your girlfriends based on their size?

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guys, do you pick your girlfriends based on their size?

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Do you just date perfectly fit/skinny girls or do you not mind your lady having a little extra fat (notice i mention extra as someone will surely point out that we all have fats) on her arms and legs?

Basically I am just tired of myself and the way I look. I spend too much time worrying about how I look and I just wanna know honestly, will you think that much/comment in your head about how a girl's body look like when you first meet?

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Male. Turning 21. How to celebrate my birthday?

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Male. Turning 21. How to celebrate my birthday?

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Hi,

I'm going to get straight to the point.

As you can tell from my username, I am an introvert.

I don't many friends, but I do have quite a few family members.

I want my 21st birthday to be remember able. I was thinking of hiring a hall and having a DJ. It will just be family, but I'm not too sure.

Birthday, happens to come on a Monday :mad:

What would you say is the best way to celebrate?

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convo about my bro and this girl

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convo about my bro and this girl

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I bumped into this girl i know and she was asking about everyone in a normal way but when she was asking about my bro, her eyes lit up and her voice sounded flirty, i said he was asking about her too and she smiled with her eyes lit up saying 'has he? She and her mate looked at each other well ( well herer mate looked at her first) and smiled, the girl had a massive grin and blushed...i said she should visit him, she giggled in a giddy way and said she might but never dos...2 weeks later she went to my.cousin to talk about her sister and after my cuz was on the phone to the family...the girl said 'how come Stan keeps asking about me' my cuzz 'dunno, maybe he fancies you' the girl blushed and started going all.child like giggling in a giddy exciting way like school girls doo...the girl said she should visit him but never dos thro...she only use to.come to the house when me and my cuzz were living there. What doo these signs mean.

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Do certain ethnicities have a better looking gender?

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Do certain ethnicities have a better looking gender?

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Like the men are considered better looking than the women or vice versa. What do you think?

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Do I have any chance with this girl?

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Do I have any chance with this girl?

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This is quite a long story and I hope you read it fully.
I started university in October. I met a girl who was on my course. We shared the same classes etc. We started talked and became friends. I thought she was great. I then asked her if she had a boyfriend. She said she did. I was disappointed because I really liked her. I then dropped the topic and didn't talk my feelings to her.
Anyway, a few months went by and we became more closer friends. We talk almost everyday. Then I felt my feelings beginning to develop again for her.

Anyway, i started writing statuses on Facebook mainly about unrequited love quotes and things like that. They were directed at her. I knew she would read them. Every time I wrote one, she would message me and ask who did I write it for? Every time she asked, I would just dodge the question and never give a straight answer.

Then she asked me if I love her. I said I don't know. I am 99% sure I was in love with her, but I didn't want to say it knowing she didn't feel the same.

Just a little bit of background info about her boyfriend. She lives in another country. They have been together for the last 405years. It's a long distance relationship you could say. She told her mum about him in September but her mum didn't like him and she told her to stop talking to him. She did stop talking to the guy, but then started talking again as she realised she really loves him. Obviously her family doesn't want she is talking to him now.

She has met the guy only once which was in September. The first time she met him, she was in her country, at a concert, and he came over and have her a piece of paper with his number on it. Anyway that's a bit of context for that.
Also her plan is to tell her family about him again in 2-3 years (when she finishes university). She believes she can convince them.
So, just yesterday, she told me a "secret". We were at uni doing some work and she said she wanted to tell me something.
What she told really surprised me.
She said when her family disapproved of her boyfriend, she wanted to try and find somebody else. So she told her boyfriend that she wants a 'break'. In his mind, he thought she was ending things with him and that's what he thought happened. But in her mind, she wanted to try with someone else, and see if she could find someone else.
And that's what she did, kind of. There was a guy in our class. She liked him, and she got close to him. They would go to the park together and talk, hug, kiss on the cheek.
Then he kissed her. After she kiss, she was sad. He asked her why? She said that she has a boyfriend. He was quite shocked because why is she with him if she has a boyfriend? She didn't tell him that she was on a 'break' with her boyfriend. He said he didn't want to continue because he has been in a similar situation etc. After basically their little relationship (I wouldn't even call it that as it didn't even last a day) ended. She then realised, it was all a mistake and that she loves her boyfriend. (Like what? lool)

I think the fact that she is in a long distance relationship, she just wanted to try with another guy because she is missing the physical side of the relationship? That's my guess anyway.

Anyway so that ended and she is talking to her lover boy boyfriend again.
When she told me this, i was feeling:
Shocked, surprised, and kind of sad inside.
I know this may sound stupid or pathetic but I said to her:
U gave the guy a chance and he is a fool to let you go, etc.
U never gave me a chance to show u my feelings for u, how much I care about u, etc. I feel hurt.

She replied saying it was just a mistake, she doesn't want to talk about the last, she didn't love him etc.
I then said it's about the guy, it's about me.
Then she said u know I have a boyfriend, I love him very much. Etc.
That I shouldn't be selfish.
She said I'm sorry.
Anyway, then I said to her I don't want to ruin our friendship.
And then she said:
I think we can't be friends. I should delete her from Facebook.

After numerous times of me apologising, she said that she is thinking of me, and that she doesn't want to see me sad
I said to her don't worry I won't be sad. I just want to be friends with u, I'm sorry etc.
Then she eventually she ok. She said don't talk about love etc. And that she loves her boyfriend very much.

Ok anyway things went back to normal after a few weeks.
I still have feelings for her, but I will never tell her about it again.
I don't want to ruin our friendship.
So I just wanted some of your views on this.
I know some of you will say I am silly for still being friends with her. I know people say you can't be friends with someone you have feelings for but I think I can manage. It will be hard, but I truly believe I can do it.

It will hurt, I will always love her no matter what but we are friends only.

We talk on fb and whatsapp mostly at least every other day.

And we are going back to uni next month. So what do I need to do? Do I have any chance with her? Or should I just give up, and how can I make things easier for me to deal with. I feel like **** a lot of the time when I think about her.

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What is real reason for 'Trickle Truths'

WS has done EVERYTHING for R, except the total honesty. He is honest about drug use and other problems but not the EAs. Some of them occurred 20 years ago, other up until 4 years ago. I have had to play detective to bring up a wholes in his story. When confronted with evidence, sometimes he comes clean, other times-he still lies. He has been honest about everything post affairs.
Some of these lies are so stupid. For instance, he said he put a bouquet of flowers in EA car door, at the parking lot in front of the open mic place. That didn't make sense to me, as they were trying to keep things discreet. If he put those flowers in the car door, it would have been very visible to people inside. Months later, he admitted he put the flowers in her car door while she was at church!
Stupid gifts that he sent various EAs. Nothing expensive, some homemade, copies of CDs, etc. I had asked him right to his face if he had given anything and he lied.
I've lost track of the numbers of these stupid deceptions. Some things he attributes to the fact that he can't remember details from so long ago. Others, he admits he lied but can't explain why, or his explanations are ridiculous.
That he thought it sounded 'better' if he stuck with the slowly unraveling story than seem like a liar!!!!
He says he has always been a liar, since childhood and it's a bad habit. He says he sometimes lies to my face and then tells me the truth hours or days later, when he is finally ready to face up to his own behavior.
Is any of this possible? What is the mechanism to this Trickle Truth phenomena. Is it possible for someone to really want a real reconciliation, while struggling with this?

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Same story told a thousand different times....

I'm 35, female, married with two boys 9 years apart one being 5 months old. Hubby is 45, my best friend, amazing dad and husband. He's the type of man that will take the kids to let me sleep in and make me toast and coffee on a Sunday.

Like most on here our relationship outside of the bedroom is perfect! But inside the bedroom has sunken to a new depth in hell I'm riddled with sadness and devastation. He has simply out grown sex. Sex does not equal love in his mind and has very little need for sex that he can be content with it 6 times a year.

I'm a normal to mid high drive but lately I'd even say my drive is normal to low range for a new again mom. However intimacy with my husband is extremely important to me and I'm having an extremely hard time dealing with his zero interest in that matter.

There is no compromise, sex happens or it doesn't simply based on his mood. He does not even meet me 25% of the way. Unless its only a bj im after then he will gladly allow but he will not get me off to help satisfy me in any way. I used to hint, flirt, play, ask, beg to no avail. I stopped for months because the rejection was just too much to bear.

We became a sexless couple.

Then one day I broke down and told him I can't live this way. That being married to him makes me feel vile, less of a woman, pathetic and desperate. Not to mention the pain in my heart from desiring his touch or attention and how lonely it is for me. I said things have to change and he promised they would.

I went away for a month to visit his family and told him to see what life would be like without me that maybe he would be happier. Because clearly I'm not the right woman for him because he's not sexually stimulated by me. He said he's like that with all women, he's just not into sex and its getting worse with age. But he promised to make changes to meet me in the middle. I even suggested a date night every two weeks where we could be intimate. He said he will try harder.

Came back and of course the first night we ended up having awkward sex that was really just quick and lacking anything intimate. I didn't even want to because I wanted us both to be groomed but it just happened so fast I gave in and figured the weekend we could have a do over. Because he was proving to me things will be better. The next morning I was kinda on cloud nine and proceeded to arouse him and ended up giving him a BJ, ill be honest I missed doing that since we stopped being intimate I couldn't help myself. Again I felt like not making sex an issue and just going with the flow.

Fast forward to the weekend, I groom and hint that he should too, he doesn't. I get into bed with him I'm wearing a sexy little dress and ankle socks (that used to be his thing) and nothing happens. I don't get upset I don't want to lose momentum between us by fighting so I say to myself "it will happen in the morning" he prefers morning sex anyway. Morning comes he's rubbing my bum so i think ok this might be the time. I start to rub his thighs and such and he gets hard (he never ever has morning wood) I play with him a bit and figured that's enough. He gets out of bed and gets dressed????

Again I don't get upset and tell myself that night it will happen but of course it didnt. I cried myself to sleep he was angry at me. Now I sit here wondering wtf am I going to do. He's come in and rubbed me and kissed me trying to make amends but at this point if I even bother with his gestures it just means going back to happy sexless roommates.

I'm sorry I just want to vent and find comfort in ppl who share similar situations. I know you've all heard this story before. I'm so alone I can't share this with friends or family. Everyone thinks we are perfect!

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