Question for the Ladies
Hello I need to ask the Ladies on this forum a question. I'm turning 40 in April and my wife turned 42 at the end of September, I officially separated with my wife near the end of October. We have been together over 15 years and married for over 12 years. We have 4 kids together, boy 13 in Feb, girl 12 in June, boy 9 in August and a girl 5 in April. My eldest kid has a rare genetical disability. Anyway I have had a number of bad things happen in my life that led to me having depression for a number of years.
Anyway I really love my wife, she's a great woman and a good girl in every sence of the word. She wanted to separate and wants us to sell the house 50/50 and do the custody 50/50, (more or less, go our separate ways try again in a year or so). She understandably has a truckload of resentment that has built up over the years and says she just needs to be away from me for awhile so she can deal with it, she says that she needs to know both of us can make on our own, before we start over again.
She has always been very driven and goal orientated and has put a number of goals (dreams) on hold because of my situation. I have owned my part in BS that went on in our marriage. She has told me that she does love me (especially as the father of her kids) but doesn't know if she's "in love" with me.
Before everyone says she is having an affair, it's probably going to take around 6 to 12 months to get our house ready for sale and said that she is alright us living together (separate beds) until our house sells. I know this girl better than anyone and she is no bed hopper, she has had long stints of being single without BF's (and sex) before we started going out. Even when we started going out I slept next to her for a couple of months before I slept with her.
Our whole marriage hasn't been bad, we have had a few good years. Anyway I love my wife dearly and I want to keep my family together. I have finally kicked the depression and now feel the best I have in years and year and I'm able to give her what she wants, but she says she needs time to heal. I was very Alpha when we first met and now I suppose I'm quite Beta now but I'm working on getting my old self back.
ATM I feel a bit heart broken and alone although im not depressed. She's always been a person of her word and I believe her when she says that she wants to start again after having a break to heal but we (she) really needs to get that attraction going with me again. I suppose my question is do you think that, if I do the right things she could fall in love with me again or is it impossible to get it back once it's gone.
Thanks TAM Ladies
Hello I need to ask the Ladies on this forum a question. I'm turning 40 in April and my wife turned 42 at the end of September, I officially separated with my wife near the end of October. We have been together over 15 years and married for over 12 years. We have 4 kids together, boy 13 in Feb, girl 12 in June, boy 9 in August and a girl 5 in April. My eldest kid has a rare genetical disability. Anyway I have had a number of bad things happen in my life that led to me having depression for a number of years.
Anyway I really love my wife, she's a great woman and a good girl in every sence of the word. She wanted to separate and wants us to sell the house 50/50 and do the custody 50/50, (more or less, go our separate ways try again in a year or so). She understandably has a truckload of resentment that has built up over the years and says she just needs to be away from me for awhile so she can deal with it, she says that she needs to know both of us can make on our own, before we start over again.
She has always been very driven and goal orientated and has put a number of goals (dreams) on hold because of my situation. I have owned my part in BS that went on in our marriage. She has told me that she does love me (especially as the father of her kids) but doesn't know if she's "in love" with me.
Before everyone says she is having an affair, it's probably going to take around 6 to 12 months to get our house ready for sale and said that she is alright us living together (separate beds) until our house sells. I know this girl better than anyone and she is no bed hopper, she has had long stints of being single without BF's (and sex) before we started going out. Even when we started going out I slept next to her for a couple of months before I slept with her.
Our whole marriage hasn't been bad, we have had a few good years. Anyway I love my wife dearly and I want to keep my family together. I have finally kicked the depression and now feel the best I have in years and year and I'm able to give her what she wants, but she says she needs time to heal. I was very Alpha when we first met and now I suppose I'm quite Beta now but I'm working on getting my old self back.
ATM I feel a bit heart broken and alone although im not depressed. She's always been a person of her word and I believe her when she says that she wants to start again after having a break to heal but we (she) really needs to get that attraction going with me again. I suppose my question is do you think that, if I do the right things she could fall in love with me again or is it impossible to get it back once it's gone.
Thanks TAM Ladies
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