We got married later in life, we're both over fifty, I'm sixty. We have no children and don't plan for any.
Although we got married four years ago, we had been together for ten years prior to getting married.
She was always the main earner, over 150k, employed in the plastics manufacturing biz, executive level marketing, product development and sales, etc. At one time she worked for a Swiss company and we traveled to Europe often, ate out a lot, shopped at Whole Foods, she had her hair done in Manhattan salon that charged over 400 for a cut and colorist, leased a Lexus, etc. Admittedly that business has gone to hell in the USA, with small margins, off-shoring, etc. She has a sterling reputation, is a committed team player-- works for the success of the company and not so much for her own advancement, hasn't been able to find a position at her level since we got married, and except for a couple of consulting gigs hasn't had any income, except for unemployment, and those gigs. She went through her 401K monies, etc. She has also gained weight since the day we got married and is obese.
I'm a self-employed contractor in the residential market, and my income fluctuates with the changes in the economy. But whenever I mention that she might take a part-time job till she finds something in her field, she goes ballistic, and nags me for hours on end describing how she carried the ball for those years, how I haven't worked for months (not true). We had to deal with a family issue relating to my elderly mother and she was a great help. But I'm going through every dime I make just to keep us afloat and we're currently one emergency away from being homeless. We're living in my mother's house which has to be sold to pay the nursing home and have recently gotten an eviction notice-- our days here are truly numbered and we're down to our last few hundred dollars. I just received a decent contract for a sizable rehab job, but since my bank account was closed for overdraft fees I cosign all my checks for her to deposit in her account, we're paying for two storage spaces . I pay the phone, the storage, her insurance on the car, etc. I also went through the cash value of my life insurance policy. I'm at the end of my rope.... the stress is excruciating any thoughts?
Although we got married four years ago, we had been together for ten years prior to getting married.
She was always the main earner, over 150k, employed in the plastics manufacturing biz, executive level marketing, product development and sales, etc. At one time she worked for a Swiss company and we traveled to Europe often, ate out a lot, shopped at Whole Foods, she had her hair done in Manhattan salon that charged over 400 for a cut and colorist, leased a Lexus, etc. Admittedly that business has gone to hell in the USA, with small margins, off-shoring, etc. She has a sterling reputation, is a committed team player-- works for the success of the company and not so much for her own advancement, hasn't been able to find a position at her level since we got married, and except for a couple of consulting gigs hasn't had any income, except for unemployment, and those gigs. She went through her 401K monies, etc. She has also gained weight since the day we got married and is obese.
I'm a self-employed contractor in the residential market, and my income fluctuates with the changes in the economy. But whenever I mention that she might take a part-time job till she finds something in her field, she goes ballistic, and nags me for hours on end describing how she carried the ball for those years, how I haven't worked for months (not true). We had to deal with a family issue relating to my elderly mother and she was a great help. But I'm going through every dime I make just to keep us afloat and we're currently one emergency away from being homeless. We're living in my mother's house which has to be sold to pay the nursing home and have recently gotten an eviction notice-- our days here are truly numbered and we're down to our last few hundred dollars. I just received a decent contract for a sizable rehab job, but since my bank account was closed for overdraft fees I cosign all my checks for her to deposit in her account, we're paying for two storage spaces . I pay the phone, the storage, her insurance on the car, etc. I also went through the cash value of my life insurance policy. I'm at the end of my rope.... the stress is excruciating any thoughts?
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