My husband screams, swears, slams doors intermittently over the most trivial things, like me moving some papers from one desk to another two feet away, or me not changing the tv chanel when he asks me to, he uses highly emotive and blaming language, and it is very loud, vicious, and over in a few seconds.
It started 10 years ago a month after we bought a house together, I have spent all that time pleading with him to stop, warning him of the consequences of him losing my my love and respect, he's been to anger management and we have just completed a stint with marriage guidance, but it still continues with him justifying his rage on my behaviour, as aforementioned.
I've heard of worse abuse on this forum, but after all these years his attacks on me no matter how short lived feel like him jabbing a knife in a barely healed up wound, he thinks I'm over reacting, but his behaviour in the past has been really shocking, and it makes me so angry that he keeps doing it, but I feel I'm running out of options, what else can I do, I'm not prepared to leave him, as he is my soulmate and when he's not being a git, he is wonderfully funny, gentle, caring supportive sexy, and we are totally suited.
What I want to know is, has anyone ever left the house and found refuge in a hotel, or with a friend during an attack, just took off without saying where you were going, and did it make any difference?
I have my escape kit and plan ready and waiting for the next time, but not sure if I'm planning the right thing, constructive comments welcome:(:(
It started 10 years ago a month after we bought a house together, I have spent all that time pleading with him to stop, warning him of the consequences of him losing my my love and respect, he's been to anger management and we have just completed a stint with marriage guidance, but it still continues with him justifying his rage on my behaviour, as aforementioned.
I've heard of worse abuse on this forum, but after all these years his attacks on me no matter how short lived feel like him jabbing a knife in a barely healed up wound, he thinks I'm over reacting, but his behaviour in the past has been really shocking, and it makes me so angry that he keeps doing it, but I feel I'm running out of options, what else can I do, I'm not prepared to leave him, as he is my soulmate and when he's not being a git, he is wonderfully funny, gentle, caring supportive sexy, and we are totally suited.
What I want to know is, has anyone ever left the house and found refuge in a hotel, or with a friend during an attack, just took off without saying where you were going, and did it make any difference?
I have my escape kit and plan ready and waiting for the next time, but not sure if I'm planning the right thing, constructive comments welcome:(:(
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