I screwed up big time

I have been married 14 years, we have children. I have been faithful with her through college and throughout our marriage. I made one horrible mistake last week. At an overnight meeting for work I hooked up with a (also married) co worker. No actual sex but basically everything else. I feel sooo horrible and I don't know why I did it. We have a strong marriage and a very healthy sex life. I won't use the drunk excuse but that certainly didnt help. All I can think of is I've never had a chance to experience the "thrill of the chase" "sow my wild oats" or anything like that. I basically wasn't thinking and I feel awful. My question is, do I confess? I know many will say of course u confess but I'm not sure what to do. Part of me feels that by confessing I am passing the guilt to her and making myself feel better. Living with the guilt is simply the worst, and i deserve it. In conversations before she has said that she's not sure she wo uld want to know bc she wouldn't leave me but she could never forget and it would be worse than not knowing. Please help, I know i am an ahole and I made a horrible mistake. If i had actual intercourse I think i would have to confess. But do I confess now or live with the guilt and simply be a better husband. I have never before been unfaithful and I think I treat my wife very well on most occasions. I'm rambling but I am hurting so bad. I couldn't imagine losing my wife and kids. Help! Posted via Mobile Device

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