| My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and a half, living together for a year. We have been having serious issues for well over six months. One of the biggest issues is our sex life; it's non-existent. Last fall he mentioned my weight, I've now lost weight and am the same weight we were when we met. He also blames how short my temper has gotten and that he just doesn't want to 'be with' me. I feel it's frustration, not only stemming from that but he moved in with me - into a home I own - he brought two dogs and a cat that he doesn't clean up after. Not very well anyway. I am no clean freak but I like a certain level of order in the house and that's totally gone and it doesn't seem to matter how many times I express how much some things bother me, he does it anyway. Not washing, not picking up after the dogs. If nothing else I don't feel that behavior is healthy. I also think his feelings about my appearance are more to do with his own appearance than mine, he has gained a significant amount of weight and no matter how much I tell him I still find him attractive he can't get past his own feelings about himself. He's also said that sex is supposed to be special and that we need to work on our friendship before we can have any sex again and that he's been close and then I blow up about something and ruin it. This is starting to sound like excuses. I'm close to asking him if he has a physical problem that he's embarrassed to discuss with me. I have been seeking counseling and consulting my doctor about my behavior, my counselor has suggested I'm letting too much build up and just blowing up about stupid things. I'm not really sure what I'm asking here...opinions? Experiences? Someone to talk to.... | |||
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