In The Good Ole Days (When Things Were Bad)

Just venting to others in a situation like my own. The irony of love and romance; marriage and divorce. The key is to try to remember why we are where we are now. Remember, you tried but your spouse didn't. You would have done anything, your spouse didn't do anything. The ups and downs will pass. Remember, you are better off now than you were before. Your spouse is no longer worth the sorrow and pain. How did you get here? Because of your spouse. Don't forget that. Remember the "good ole days?" Things were bad then, too, you just didn't know it, did you? This just didn't happen overnight. YOU entered into the marriage honorably. Your spouse....maybe. Some people are relationship breakers. When the going gets tough, instead of working out the issues they walk away from the marriage. Sound familiar? You went to counseling seeking to save your marriage. Your spouse went seeking a therapist endorsed reason to leave. You can tell your story with facts and details. Your spouse dislikes facts and details; they want to talk about their feelings or don't remember things. You can apologize for your mistakes. Your spouse doesn't make mistakes, they claim to be victims of yours. You want to talk about problems in your marriage. Your spouse says you are keeping lists and want to rehash old issues. You want to understand certain things your spouse did. Your spouse wants blanket forgiveness for everything without further discussion. Don't forget: you are better off now than you were before!

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