Did my husbands first marriage/wife ruin him?

My husband and I have been married for about 3 years. We have a child together and our relationship is miserable. Some Background info: He was married before, gave her everything she wanted, tried hard to fix the marriage even when she cheated. She left him and later on married another guy whom she had a child with. The guy has money and buys her everything she wants. We got married, and straight from the beginning it seemed like I was entering some bad nightmare just waiting to wake up. He doesn't bother with anything. Doesn't try to fix issues that we have. It seemed like all the hurt and anger he was left with from his previous relationship, was brought into our relationship. I cannot have access to his bank account, we do not go on vacation/trips, he plays x-box all day, he's extremely disrespectful. There is so much more and I know that I dont want to be married to him. I love him, but that is not enough to stay with him, because the longer I am with him, the more resentment I have towards him. I get so angry when I see their wedding pictures and pictures they took of all the places they went together, knowing that me and him never had a wedding or a vacation, much less pictures of each other. Even after being married for 3 years, we dont even have 1 picture together. Our walls at home are white and empty. There is nothing there. I never thought that marrying a guy who was married before was this much of a challenge, and then I realized that not all men are like this. He doesn't want to do things anymore because he's already done them with his ex-wife. All the things that were supposed to be my firsts are his second and therefore we haven't done anything yet because he's already done them all. I am so angry and frustrated. I am financially dependent on him because I am a full time mother and student trying to get into med school. Thats really the only goal I have left that once I'm done with med-school, to take my baby and leave him. The thought of having to be with him for another couple years, waisting my time terrifies me. But if I leave now, I can forget college, I can forget my future. I had a future once, and then I married him and left it all behind. I carry an incredible amount of anger and resentment in me and I am trying to find a way to leave, to just leave and start over fresh. I'm not looking for anyone else, I just want to be happy again, before he showed me his idea of love and marriage. I'm jealous of his ex wife, how can she be like this, cheat, lie and then leave and still get her butt kissed by every guy she meets, and now her husband. This was my first marriage, my first and so were all the experiences we were supposed make together, and he ruined it. I wish, I wish I'd never married him. I'm at the point where I wish I never even met him because he managed to take every bit of happiness and hope I had, and turned it into misery. I don't hate him, but I resent him, and I resent the choices I have made because of him, and now it's too late to fix any of this and I don't know what to do.

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