Big argument and now I'm alone. Help!

I am in a real dilemma that I could use some help with. I recently married a woman in Canada (2 hours away from where I live in the US). She has her own home and a child that is now an adult who lives with her. She is paying a mortgage on her home and we've talked about her moving to the U.S., but she does not want to give up her home in Canada since her son will be attending school and will live there. She has also said that if she does come to live with me, she will use any money earned working to pay her mortgage and it will probably not be possible for her to contribute to a home here in the U.S. Money has been an ongoing topic with us as she is Chinese and has indirectly mentioned a few times that Chinese husbands support their wives. She now claims that she does not feel "safe" moving to my city with me, and I believe she expects me to cover all costs while she spends her money on her mortgage and expenses for her adult child. We recently went to China to visit her friends/family and, again, the topic of money came up there with a lot of discussion of who pays what. She said that she was embarrassed splitting costs while there in front of her family and I felt resentment toward her for not acknowledging my contributions or efforts and said a few comments to her that were not nice. She was also very critical of me during our trip. For instance, I pulled her extra bag on wheels all over the city, to the train station, and all over the airport, but she claims that I was not happy doing it for her (if she detects that I'm not happy, I get in trouble later). I also came under fire for not appearing to be happy while walking countless miles with a sinus infection and loss of sleep. I also set her purse on the ground while waiting for her to use the restroom and she was very upset. Once we arrived back in Canada she became very cold toward me for three days. I sat in the bedroom most of the time and tried to talk with her whenever I could to try and get the healing process started. All I got out of her is that she is angry about the mean things I've said during the trip and in the past. On the third day, I purchased her roses and a card asking that we try and work things out. She did not thank me for either and, after a short discussion, she felt it was best that we separate for awhile so she can determine if she can continue a relationship with me; she could not try to work things out now because she is so angry. I suggested that we go to counseling, but she did not want to do that because she said it would make her angry all over again talking about the past and that we should see a counselor if our marriage was not going to work out. Now I am back at my home in the U.S., alone, and waiting to hear from her. What do do?

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