| In the past I have posted about my husband, and our sexual issues. What it boils down to is this - he is a stay ay home dad, I work full time. His sleep schedule is totally off the wall - he stays up all night, comes to bed after he gets the kids on the bus, gets up before they get home and does it all over again the next day. While this is not ideal....whatever, it works for now. The problems start when he wants sex daily, but refuses to come to bed with me, even for 30 minutes then get back up. So I am expected to wake up when he comes to bed (sometimes he does lay down at 4 or 5 am) or get up early and have sex before I get ready for work. If he were to wake me up...maybe that would be okay, and in the morning is fine, when I have time. Most of the time he doesn't wake me up, or says he tries and I won't get up. And if sex is not DAILY he gets upset, and by upset I mean it turns into a huge argument - if I am not f***ing him then I have to have a boyfriend, or I just want nothing to do with him. Neither of which is true. Well, recently we had been on a pretty decent streak. I was trying hard and if I missed a day here or there he was not blowing up. Well, last night I woke up about 4:30 and he was getting ready to lay down. I got up for a drink then laid down with him and fell right back asleep. I woke up a short time later (10 minutes maybe?) and tried to initiate and he made me stop, threw his arm around me and went to sleep. This morning he calls me screaming and cursing about something in the house that was not done. I said I was sorry and that I should have done it. He responded with "there are a lot of things you should have done" then hangs up on me and has refused to answer my calls or text since then. I am not opposed to sex with him, I like sex!! But I don't think it's outrageous for me to ask him to give up 30 minutes of his evening to spend with me or initiate things once in a while. But he wont. In his defense he did come spend almost all evening with me earlier this week. We were laying in bed watching TV and we both fell asleep and woke up in the early morning. He got up to do something on his computer and I asked him to come have sex before he got started doing whatever it was and he refused, telling me to just go back to sleep. Anyway....I just don't know what to do. I am trying - or at least I think I am. And no matter what I do its never good enough, this seems to be the root of all our problems. What can I do to try to patch things up? Is there some compromise I can make, something else I should do? I just want to do the right thing for change. | |||
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