Adultery...

I'm amazed at how many married couples on TAM are "working through things" after affairs. Is it just because affairs are so common these days, or what? An affair would be an absolute deal-breaker for me, and there wouldn't be anything for me to be "working through". I could put up with lot from my spouse, but that one would break the marriage contract for me. I'm not talking about an emotional affair, but one that turned into a physical affair would end it. I would forgive her, but I would no longer be married to her (forgiveness does not equal condoning, removal of consequences, or allowing an action to continue). I would also expect my wife to do the same thing if I were the one cheating. No double standards here. I would expect to move out and no longer be her husband, and I wouldn't even want her to try to "work through things" with me. In fact, I would gladly step aside and allow her to have a life with someone else who would be more faithful than myself and treat her better than I did. I would want to see my kids, etc. (make legal arrangements for all of that), but I would not expect (or probably even allow) her to continue to be my wife if I broke our contract. Am I the only one out there with this sort of thinking?

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