I am suddenly very concerned.

I posted yesterday about my husbands strange behavior regarding our finances. I am suddenly gravely concerned. We have a joint account and he has an account under his name, I am the beneficiary. I can see both accounts, they are under the same company. I have been married to him for 4 years (with him 8yrs). I stopped working 2 yrs ago. Simply put, I can work but not reenter my field, my earning potential is never going to be the same. This is what he is saying... -we live on our joint account until it is gone then switch to his money. He will not put my name on his account for 15yrs. -His money is HIS and how he chooses to use it is up to him. -He will take care of us financially so I have nothing to worry about. -If I go back to work I don't "trust" him, and I am not doing my part for our marriage. -He has decided to take a break from working for an undetermined period of time. We can last maybe 2 yrs on our joint account. I refinanced and put him on my house. He is rich, he has enough money that neither of us would have to work again. He is very angry and flipping out saying I have no right to ask about his money, we are fine, he will give us a good life, etc. What he is now denying is our agreement that a certain percentage of his money was suppose to transfer to our joint each year, it had not so far because of a complicated tax issue. It was a fair deal I believed. In writing but not a legal doc. The tax issue is over so that's what started this. He lied to me. I am stunned right now. I would never have left my job knowing this, he says I knew all along. I think I am in real trouble, I feel like a hostage suddenly. Married short time....he put some money into my house. If I take my half of the joint account...pay him what he put into our house....I can last about 6 months. I don't have any legal rights do I? I'm in oregon. I know I need a lawyer but I am horrified right now and could use some advice until I can get to one. I feel so very very stupid right now I have had a funny feeling lately, little things and now none of this feels real. I had a melt down and started bawling, he snarled at me saying I'm all about money and it makes him sick. :( That has never been true, never. I am so upset right now I don't know what to do and I feel very alone all of a sudden. Thank you for listening.

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