I can't take much more of this.

OK people, it has been a while since I posted and now I think I am finally at the end of my tether and I really need some advice or help. I will try and keep it brief. I have not had sex since June 2010, when my wife and I conceived our beautiful son who was born in March 2011. We love each other very much but the sex life has completely and utterly died; although I constantly want it, she does not. Ever. I accepted the lack of sex during pregnancy as some women feel uncomfortable about it. I accepted it also in the weeks and months immediately after birth, because some women are sensitive emotionally and physically after childbirth and that's fine. I have been supportive, helpful and hard-working as a father and husband ever since we got married and especially since becoming parents. I change nappies, get up at night to feed him, I do everything I possibly can to help. It makes NO difference to the lack of sex. I mean NO difference at all. But now it is February 2013 and we have STILL not had sex. There is however a small glimmer of hope. We have had some intimacy and limited sexual activity, ie. mutual masturbation, however even these occasions have been rare blips on a flatline. I can recall only 2 occasions since June 2012 where I got so far as far putting a condom on, thinking it was about to 'happen'. The first was autumn 2011. It was going well that night, but our baby woke up just as I was about to take the plunge -- and the "moment was gone", and NO amount of convincing would get her back in the mood. Fair enough, I thought, no big deal. Except it WAS a big deal because it had been MONTHS since the last sex and I knew it would be MONTHS before she felt like it again. I kept my mouth shut and went to sleep with a huge hard on. But I was right about it being months. The 2nd occasion of coming close to doing it again was just 4 weeks ago (Jan 2013). It would almost be funny if it weren't so tragic: It was going great, we were both VERY aroused and I removed her underwear and had to stop to put on a condom. Now it gets silly: It had been such a long time since the previous 'attempt' that I'd forgotten exactly where I'd put the condoms! I rummaged in the bedside drawer (in the dark) to find one and and knocked something over, which woke our son in the next room. He cried, but only AFTER I'd got myself 'suited up'. "I'll just be a second" she said, went to sort our son out and came back within 2 minutes, I was FULLY ready to have enormously great sex, laying there with a HUGE erection and condom on. Finally, I thought, we are going to fix this. But no. "Sorry, darling, the moment has gone. I'm going to sleep. Goodnight." Like it meant nothing. She just switched off without so much as a cuddle or a kiss. Gone. Finished. Forget it. But for me, the moment was NOT gone, and I was NOT ready to go to sleep. Sure enough, I told her my feelings and I was literally CRYING with disappointment. This turned into a big argument and got really out of hand. I slept on the sofa for half the night. She would not speak to me the next morning. We had some mutual masturbation on a rare occasion before that, maybe 6 weeks ago. I am now BURSTING with frustration and desperate for some release. She just does not seem to share the same urge for sex that I do, and I'm seriously panicking that maybe we are just not suited. I have done everything I can think of to fix this, I mean everything from housework to romance, to new clothes and aftershave. It has got to the stage where if I'm nice or affectionate she hurls an accusation that I'm just doing it "because I want sex". AND I DO. Why shouldn't I? I am married to her. She is my wife. Husbands WANT SEX with their wives. What gauls me is that she simply does not think it's a big deal. It utterly, utterly depresses me and there is NOTHING that I seem able to do about it. I thought maybe I could set myself a deadline, like if we don't have sex this year we shall have to divorce. But I really don't want that to happen because we are a family with a child whom we both love dearly. I just want her to feel SOME sort of need for sex like I do. She won't even talk about it because talking about it "makes it an issue." Well here is the news: IT IS AN ISSUE. God I am so depressed. What can I do about this? Anyone?

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