| I have been married for 14 years. We have 3 kids together all under the age of 10. I work full time and provide 100% coverage health benefits through my work for my entire family. I don't make a ton of money, but it's a fair wage for this day and age. My husband has been trying to run a business for about 5 years, but has desired to always run his own business. Over this 5 years it has been touch and go as far as the income is concerned. He's made a lot of bad decisions, and have put us in DEEP debt trying to keep the business afloat.We have struggled with money, but are still able to pay the bills with my income. We don't have alot of extra money for stuff like clothes and food, but the bills are paid. I am pretty much the care giver for the kids, always have been, with not a lot of contribution from him. So I work full time, take care of the household chores and take care of the kids. He has always wanted to do his own thing instead of working f or someone else, it's always been his dream. For years I resisted this because I know how hard it is to run a successfull business after watching one of my bosses struggle. When he got laid off 5 years ago, he took the chance to run his own business. He always knew I was not thrilled with the idea, but wanted to chase his dream. Ever since he's been doing this, he works all the time. At least 10 hrs a day usually more, and 7 days a week, and makes nothing after expenses. Recently he won a piece of business that will hopefully make a good income. Since he got this work, he would like me to take my extra time on the weekends and help with the work. I don't neccessarily have a problem with helping out once in a while if he gets behind or is in a bind, but I do not desire to spend every weekend working in the shop. I feel like my 40 hr. week, house hold and taking care of the 3 kids is plenty too handle. I do not feel right about working all weekend and leaving the kids unattend ed, or with a babysitter. I don't get to spend alot of time with them now because I work, so I look forward to the weekends and spending some time with them. I told him that I do not wish to work my weekends away and feel that my job and kids and household are enough. I don't ask him to come to work with me, so why does he think I should come to work with him? With that being said, he leads me to believe that if he starts making money hand over fist, I'm not entitled to anything. He does not think he should have to pay anyof the debt that he accumulated over the last 5 years. SO it sounds to me like even if he's making a ton of money, he's not going to share any of it if I'm not willing to work with him. Keep in mind, I have supported this household on my measly income all this time, go without groceries, shop at garage sales for clothes for myself and the kids. And I do not expect alot, I would like like to have enough money to go to the grocery store on a regular bases. I' m not looking to start going on vacations, or get cable TV or anything, I just want to meet the basic needs for my kids. Am I crazy for not wanting to work an extra 10-20 hours on the weekends and not spend any time with my kids? I feel like this is HIS opportunity to make some money for a change. He always preaches that as the "MAN" of the house his job is to provide for his family, but when it comes down to actually doing that, he wants me right there with him working away with him, on top of my regular job. And like I said, I am willing to help in a pinch, I just don't want to do it all the time, everyweekend. |
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