Wanted to get people's thoughts regarding openly being crude about sex.
I think a lot of people put a lot of window dressing on sex. Men try to romance women and be sweet, women don't want people to think they're sl*ts, but IMO there is really something more primal below that stuff most times that gets danced around.
I don't want to turn this into another thread about my marriage, but as time has gone by and I have thought back on all of the hoops I've tried to jump through (most of which was wasted effort), I've wondered why I never just discarded all that and just said, here's what I'm interested in (which is basically crude) and just lay it out without censorship.
I feel like there is so much dishonesty around sex. I really wonder why people feel the need to do these dances.
I did have a relationship once where I was just brutally honest about this stuff. It was super hot, but the reason I felt like I COULD be that honest was because I just didn't care very much about the girl.
As I reflect back on this, I think I got this backward. Shouldn't you really be so honest with the person who you really do care about?
But with girls I really liked, I never felt that I could be. It's not polite, it's not gentlemanly and you're not supposed to talk to girls that way.
This is probably just my hangup, but I wonder how common it is for people to do these dances when they really just want to lay it out.
I think a lot of people put a lot of window dressing on sex. Men try to romance women and be sweet, women don't want people to think they're sl*ts, but IMO there is really something more primal below that stuff most times that gets danced around.
I don't want to turn this into another thread about my marriage, but as time has gone by and I have thought back on all of the hoops I've tried to jump through (most of which was wasted effort), I've wondered why I never just discarded all that and just said, here's what I'm interested in (which is basically crude) and just lay it out without censorship.
I feel like there is so much dishonesty around sex. I really wonder why people feel the need to do these dances.
I did have a relationship once where I was just brutally honest about this stuff. It was super hot, but the reason I felt like I COULD be that honest was because I just didn't care very much about the girl.
As I reflect back on this, I think I got this backward. Shouldn't you really be so honest with the person who you really do care about?
But with girls I really liked, I never felt that I could be. It's not polite, it's not gentlemanly and you're not supposed to talk to girls that way.
This is probably just my hangup, but I wonder how common it is for people to do these dances when they really just want to lay it out.
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