Hi, I just joined-up.I have been dealing all weekend with my psychotically angry wife and have concluded I need some support in coping with the emotional abuse that exists in my 12 year marriage (my 2nd, her first). I checked out a site that asks
a bunch of questions to determine if your spouse is verbally and emotionally abusive, and my situation met every criterion. The abuse occurs daily,but flares up to extremes a couple times a month regardless of whats going on. At these times she will call me names and tell me to leave and make me feel useless and hated. At these times I will defend myself verbally without yelling but will keep to myself till it blows over which it does in a day or so, but never with an apology or acknowledgement of her
extreme behavior-she simply just begins to act nicer and be less
critical of me. I have 3 grown kids out of state, and a grown stepson nearby. My elderly mother has had to come live with us 15 months ago and my wife deeply resents this.I provide a good living for us and she doesn't work. I used to drink a lot over lifes stress, but quit 2 years ago. I'm an extremely helpful and accomodating person, and I am very easy going and never hold a grudge, but its hard to forget you were told"I hate you" and "youre an A-hole and idiot,etc.etc. Are there many men here dealing with emotionally abusive wives? :confused:all feedback appreciated.
a bunch of questions to determine if your spouse is verbally and emotionally abusive, and my situation met every criterion. The abuse occurs daily,but flares up to extremes a couple times a month regardless of whats going on. At these times she will call me names and tell me to leave and make me feel useless and hated. At these times I will defend myself verbally without yelling but will keep to myself till it blows over which it does in a day or so, but never with an apology or acknowledgement of her
extreme behavior-she simply just begins to act nicer and be less
critical of me. I have 3 grown kids out of state, and a grown stepson nearby. My elderly mother has had to come live with us 15 months ago and my wife deeply resents this.I provide a good living for us and she doesn't work. I used to drink a lot over lifes stress, but quit 2 years ago. I'm an extremely helpful and accomodating person, and I am very easy going and never hold a grudge, but its hard to forget you were told"I hate you" and "youre an A-hole and idiot,etc.etc. Are there many men here dealing with emotionally abusive wives? :confused:all feedback appreciated.
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