Hello,
I am desperate in my marriage. Either to get to a point of making progress, or to take a step towards separation.
We've been married almost 5 years and have 2 young kids.
We've been fighting for a long time, on and off and I can't stand it.
I have tried to "start over' so to speak. In the past, I have been very critical of him. And he never let those things go, no matter what I have done since. We go through cycles of me getting angry over his being distant and cold and me trying to reach him. He doesn't pursue me- for as long as I can remember.
He doesn't have local friends or other interests besides work.
We fight about lots of things- but often our family situations come up.
He provides well financially. I work part time right now.
He will do things in regards to the kids if I ask. But he has a block in relation to the kids. He is not very helpful and he finds them to be burdensome. He will still help but he mentions how they take up all his free time and complains about how difficult they are. I do the bulk of the childcare.
He strongly dislikes my family. I have had issues with his family but I still interact with them on a regular basis and help them when I can. He avoids my family and only is asked to see them once every few months.
He has a lot of difficulty saying anything nice about me, intitiating sex, touching me, or saying I love you without me having to ask.
We don't enjoy each other anymore. we fight so that we are always trying to stabilize. I am losing a sense of hope about the relationship.
I don't really want to get a divorce. I just feel lost and I get more angry and upset as time passes. I am seeing a therapist. He refuses any therapy. saying that it didn't work in the past so he doesn't want to try again. I've talked to him about everything, he tunes me out.
He is depressed. Doesn't enjoy much except work. I have encouraged him to do something about it. He has done very little. I am tired and he knows this.
I love him. And I feel like the one doing the pursuing. I don't know what to do know.
I am desperate in my marriage. Either to get to a point of making progress, or to take a step towards separation.
We've been married almost 5 years and have 2 young kids.
We've been fighting for a long time, on and off and I can't stand it.
I have tried to "start over' so to speak. In the past, I have been very critical of him. And he never let those things go, no matter what I have done since. We go through cycles of me getting angry over his being distant and cold and me trying to reach him. He doesn't pursue me- for as long as I can remember.
He doesn't have local friends or other interests besides work.
We fight about lots of things- but often our family situations come up.
He provides well financially. I work part time right now.
He will do things in regards to the kids if I ask. But he has a block in relation to the kids. He is not very helpful and he finds them to be burdensome. He will still help but he mentions how they take up all his free time and complains about how difficult they are. I do the bulk of the childcare.
He strongly dislikes my family. I have had issues with his family but I still interact with them on a regular basis and help them when I can. He avoids my family and only is asked to see them once every few months.
He has a lot of difficulty saying anything nice about me, intitiating sex, touching me, or saying I love you without me having to ask.
We don't enjoy each other anymore. we fight so that we are always trying to stabilize. I am losing a sense of hope about the relationship.
I don't really want to get a divorce. I just feel lost and I get more angry and upset as time passes. I am seeing a therapist. He refuses any therapy. saying that it didn't work in the past so he doesn't want to try again. I've talked to him about everything, he tunes me out.
He is depressed. Doesn't enjoy much except work. I have encouraged him to do something about it. He has done very little. I am tired and he knows this.
I love him. And I feel like the one doing the pursuing. I don't know what to do know.
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