Hello. I am confused and frustrated of why I've caught my husband staring at very young girls (late teens or early twenty's) the last year or so. He's 42, handsome, successful. He looked at these girls while talking to me, provided it was a few seconds glance, it was more than one glance at each occasion. I was outraged and embarrassed. I told him that I found men, especially married men that did that to me before creepy and I always feel bad for the wife. It's a look sure, harmless but it's so disrespectfully to the marriage and the wife. I asked where this is coming from and where is it going? He claimed he's innocent, that he didn't have bad thoughts and didn't mean to hurt me. I believed first look is normal and innocent, but after 4 looks, his mind went to something else and no longer just a look. I caught him twice the last 6 months when we're out together; he said it's only twice a year and it's nothing and I am blowing thing out of control . I believe this is happening for a reason, a deep desire that he's hiding from me since he did not do this before. I also think it's possible that he no longer finds me attractive and old (I am 8 years older). I don't feel good about myself and I told him this. Like usual, when things bothers me that was caused by him, he turned the table and make it about him because he said I can't control myself. Now he's locking up and and said he wants to be alone. We don't have the best marriage, old issues never got resolved from 7 years ago. I pushed him for a reason because I think this could be a beginning of more to come and I want to know to prepare myself. I know he will never admit to anything that would make him the "bad guy". My relationship with him is normal, plain when we don't have issues. Sex life is below normal. We have a 10 year old little boy that's the strongest bond between us. I know most of you will say it's nothing, but what I am looking for is the root of the issue why he would do this lately. I can't not talk to him since I am the type that want to get to the bottom of things and he's would just shut down, or make it my fault.
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