I have been posting various issues between my husband and I here for a while and many of the problems have resolved with the help I have received here and from an IC (yay!). One of the main issues was dealing with my husbands depression and he is no longer in a depressive state so that has helped tremendously.
One problem has not been rectified. First, my husband is a perfectionist to the extreme. I tend to be more careless with things (I totally recognize this as a fault) but I have improved over time. But if I do lose something, or drop an object or something gets damaged in any way, he goes into an angry tirade and starts hurling insults at me...for example calling me retarded, stupid, idiot etc..
I have told him I will not put up with it anymore and threatened divorce. The name calling has reduced significantly, but it has not gone away altogether. It makes me feel terrible about myself when he does this and he tells me it's my fault. Is this a lost cause? Do I just accept the fact that he has improved and say this is just who he is?
One problem has not been rectified. First, my husband is a perfectionist to the extreme. I tend to be more careless with things (I totally recognize this as a fault) but I have improved over time. But if I do lose something, or drop an object or something gets damaged in any way, he goes into an angry tirade and starts hurling insults at me...for example calling me retarded, stupid, idiot etc..
I have told him I will not put up with it anymore and threatened divorce. The name calling has reduced significantly, but it has not gone away altogether. It makes me feel terrible about myself when he does this and he tells me it's my fault. Is this a lost cause? Do I just accept the fact that he has improved and say this is just who he is?
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