I was asked why I don't work out together with my husband. The main reason is the fact that I am pregnant.
We have a toddler.
Sometimes I do not like working out with my husband. I am not sure if that is a good question for the forum because non of you has been there and you cannot know what the situation exactly is like.
Hubby is really, really fit and also quite knowledgeable about working out and the like. He wanted to help me with my training which is great. Unfortunately he has a different opinion about "helping" and "motivating" then I do.
When I do a exercise he will find something I did wrong and then he will go "Stop, don't do it like X, do it like Y" and that confuses me because I cannot concentrate.
He does also count how often I do an exercise. Let's say I wanted to repeat an exercise ten times. When I am done my husband tells me "Okay and now repeat it an additional five times" and when I am done with that he goes like "Okay, now two times more". I hate it. When I said I couldn't go on he told me not to be lazy.
I do not think it is motivational at all.
Is that typical for our relationship? In a way it is.
My husband just does not understand when somebody is not good at something hubby is good at. He thinks the person is plain lazy.
For example I sometimes forget to put things back in their place because I am doing something else and then hubby asks me "where is our X?" or "why is the Y in this place and not in that place where it belongs" in a very nagging tone. I find it hard to think of putting all the things in thier right places while watching a toddler, who by the way will also put things in places where they don't belong. Toddlers are like that.
I tell him I cannot recall where I put that thing he is searching for and he tells me there is no possibility she does not know where the things in the house are.
He came up with ideas of how to get more organized for me but they do not work because I am busy watching our child... and he does not seem to understand, think I am to lazy to give it a try.
I do not think hubby wants to be mean. He is sometimes shocked I was hurt by a comment he made because he only wanted to be helpful or at least saw it as a "matter of fact information" instead of an insult.
He also seems to think that persons get motivated if one tells him what they do wrong.
Sometimes that makes me really sad because I question his love, if he tells me "No, when working out pay attention to this and that, you doing this wrong, no, don'T do it like that. What are you doing? Okay, once more, come on, you are being unmotivated".:mad:
I noticed men talk to other men like this.
Sorry for the long text, should I write a short version?
We have a toddler.
Sometimes I do not like working out with my husband. I am not sure if that is a good question for the forum because non of you has been there and you cannot know what the situation exactly is like.
Hubby is really, really fit and also quite knowledgeable about working out and the like. He wanted to help me with my training which is great. Unfortunately he has a different opinion about "helping" and "motivating" then I do.
When I do a exercise he will find something I did wrong and then he will go "Stop, don't do it like X, do it like Y" and that confuses me because I cannot concentrate.
He does also count how often I do an exercise. Let's say I wanted to repeat an exercise ten times. When I am done my husband tells me "Okay and now repeat it an additional five times" and when I am done with that he goes like "Okay, now two times more". I hate it. When I said I couldn't go on he told me not to be lazy.
I do not think it is motivational at all.
Is that typical for our relationship? In a way it is.
My husband just does not understand when somebody is not good at something hubby is good at. He thinks the person is plain lazy.
For example I sometimes forget to put things back in their place because I am doing something else and then hubby asks me "where is our X?" or "why is the Y in this place and not in that place where it belongs" in a very nagging tone. I find it hard to think of putting all the things in thier right places while watching a toddler, who by the way will also put things in places where they don't belong. Toddlers are like that.
I tell him I cannot recall where I put that thing he is searching for and he tells me there is no possibility she does not know where the things in the house are.
He came up with ideas of how to get more organized for me but they do not work because I am busy watching our child... and he does not seem to understand, think I am to lazy to give it a try.
I do not think hubby wants to be mean. He is sometimes shocked I was hurt by a comment he made because he only wanted to be helpful or at least saw it as a "matter of fact information" instead of an insult.
He also seems to think that persons get motivated if one tells him what they do wrong.
Sometimes that makes me really sad because I question his love, if he tells me "No, when working out pay attention to this and that, you doing this wrong, no, don'T do it like that. What are you doing? Okay, once more, come on, you are being unmotivated".:mad:
I noticed men talk to other men like this.
Sorry for the long text, should I write a short version?
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