Hi guys. I'm new here and the title is a very short version of a very long marital issue-SEX or lackthereof.
He has given just about every excuse known to man for not wanting sex. BUT claims he does want sex and does not know why he makes excuses.:scratchhead:
This has gone on for most of our marriage of 20 yrs.
Over time it has just slowly digressed. It used to be that I could get him in the mood by touching him, then it required a bj and now he just simply has no response at all(physically) to my touch. But, again he claims to want me?:scratchhead: I'm so confused and sad and hurt and lonely. The rejection is killing me and I am at a loss for what to do. I have tried talking, begging,pleading and screaming to get him to tell me what the problem is. As I've said, he has given a host of reasons but I still dont think he's gotten to the real issue.
Something has to give. I miss him terribly, but at the same time I've grown so resentful. I believe at times he treats sex as something I must 'earn' and if I do anything, at all that he perceives as not perfect- his automatic answer- NO SEX.
He doesnt say that, but when we have had many discussions about it, he will often go back to something I did or didnt do a month ago and work it into the sex conversation.
I dont know what to do or who to talk to at this point. It scares me to think that we are well on our way to a completely sexless marriage and there's possibly nothing I can do about it.
Help!
He has given just about every excuse known to man for not wanting sex. BUT claims he does want sex and does not know why he makes excuses.:scratchhead:
This has gone on for most of our marriage of 20 yrs.
Over time it has just slowly digressed. It used to be that I could get him in the mood by touching him, then it required a bj and now he just simply has no response at all(physically) to my touch. But, again he claims to want me?:scratchhead: I'm so confused and sad and hurt and lonely. The rejection is killing me and I am at a loss for what to do. I have tried talking, begging,pleading and screaming to get him to tell me what the problem is. As I've said, he has given a host of reasons but I still dont think he's gotten to the real issue.
Something has to give. I miss him terribly, but at the same time I've grown so resentful. I believe at times he treats sex as something I must 'earn' and if I do anything, at all that he perceives as not perfect- his automatic answer- NO SEX.
He doesnt say that, but when we have had many discussions about it, he will often go back to something I did or didnt do a month ago and work it into the sex conversation.
I dont know what to do or who to talk to at this point. It scares me to think that we are well on our way to a completely sexless marriage and there's possibly nothing I can do about it.
Help!
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