Hi Everyone....
I've been dating a man for a few months, and I had felt him begin to pull away. It was obvious to me that he was going through some things, but it was like he could not describe anything he was feeling. As a female (and INFJ for those of you into Myers Briggs) this was extremely difficult for me to understand. Then he told me that a therapist that he has been seeing has referred him now to see a psychotherapist to determine if he has DID or DP/DR. Following hours of painful conversations and more tears than I thought my body could hold, we decided to stop dating, as he needs to focus on himself right now. He is in so much pain right now he says he wishes he could die, but can't kill himself (he has a daughter).
I am heartbroken, as I love him very much. I want to be a positive person in his life, but at the same time being near him hurts me. I know he is sick, so it is hard to not want to be a support for him... but part of me just wants to stop talking to him all together. When we spend time together, we have a lot of fun... But as a very emotional creature, it is really hard to deal with someone that does things and says stuff that they can't understand why it hurts.
I bought a book about the condition, and I have been reading it... It sounds just like him. Some of the ways some of the other patients describe themselves are ways he has described himself - mostly like a pawn or a robot.
We have many same friends, so it isn't even like I won't still see him all of the time.
Does anyone have experience with this... There seems to be a lot on the web, but I suppose how it applies specifically to relationships is what I am really struggling with... and when to know to just walk away.
TIA...
I've been dating a man for a few months, and I had felt him begin to pull away. It was obvious to me that he was going through some things, but it was like he could not describe anything he was feeling. As a female (and INFJ for those of you into Myers Briggs) this was extremely difficult for me to understand. Then he told me that a therapist that he has been seeing has referred him now to see a psychotherapist to determine if he has DID or DP/DR. Following hours of painful conversations and more tears than I thought my body could hold, we decided to stop dating, as he needs to focus on himself right now. He is in so much pain right now he says he wishes he could die, but can't kill himself (he has a daughter).
I am heartbroken, as I love him very much. I want to be a positive person in his life, but at the same time being near him hurts me. I know he is sick, so it is hard to not want to be a support for him... but part of me just wants to stop talking to him all together. When we spend time together, we have a lot of fun... But as a very emotional creature, it is really hard to deal with someone that does things and says stuff that they can't understand why it hurts.
I bought a book about the condition, and I have been reading it... It sounds just like him. Some of the ways some of the other patients describe themselves are ways he has described himself - mostly like a pawn or a robot.
We have many same friends, so it isn't even like I won't still see him all of the time.
Does anyone have experience with this... There seems to be a lot on the web, but I suppose how it applies specifically to relationships is what I am really struggling with... and when to know to just walk away.
TIA...
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