Ok, this is for you guys out there (and wives too if you want to chime in). As you can tell from my subject line, my wife is not affectionate and does not want to have sex with me (only out of obligation). A little background:
My wife and I are 42 and been married for 15 years. Have three kids, ages 14 yrs, 11 yrs and 7 yrs old. Just like most people, when we first dated then married, both of us were very affectionate and loving toward each other. As we had our kids, that obviously gradually went down hill due to busy schedules, work, school, family, etc. I get that.
But recently, since we had our third child, my wife seem to be less affectionate. I ALWAYS initiate sex, I ALWAYS give hugs first, and kisses. During sex, she just LAYS there. Damn, I even give her really nice professional grade massages to get her relaxed and in the mood. I ask her to maybe get on top or try something different for once and she ALWAYS says, "NO".
And then she just lays there falling asleep and pushes me away when I try to kiss her or touch her or give her oral sex, etc. She "rewards" me with sex by laying there and letting me do her for 2 minutes, then when I cum, she pushes me away and glad it's over.
Her "I love you" is even weak and I always say it first.
I work from my home office, so I take the kids to all after school activities, doctor appointments, teacher conferences, etc. I even cook every night (not warm up in the microwave, but COOK nice meals) and worry about most of the stuff for the kids. I'm respectful to my wife, don't abuse her, think the world of her, thinks she's the most gorgeous woman on earth, but I get the cold shoulder or the comment, "I'm just not feeling it" or "I work with guys all day, the last person I want to deal with when I get home is you" comment. Yes, she said that to me, but claims she does not remember saying it.
Guys, I'm at the point where I'm frustrated, resentful, mad as hell and need some love, intimacy, or just SOME respect for god sake!! I've tried everything - talking with her about it, confronting her, saying this is not right, etc...
I'm at the point where I am thinking of having an affair, just so I could get some human affection from SOMEBODY. Feel like I live with a freaking robot.
Any thoughts and suggestions?
Thanks,
pilotranger
My wife and I are 42 and been married for 15 years. Have three kids, ages 14 yrs, 11 yrs and 7 yrs old. Just like most people, when we first dated then married, both of us were very affectionate and loving toward each other. As we had our kids, that obviously gradually went down hill due to busy schedules, work, school, family, etc. I get that.
But recently, since we had our third child, my wife seem to be less affectionate. I ALWAYS initiate sex, I ALWAYS give hugs first, and kisses. During sex, she just LAYS there. Damn, I even give her really nice professional grade massages to get her relaxed and in the mood. I ask her to maybe get on top or try something different for once and she ALWAYS says, "NO".
And then she just lays there falling asleep and pushes me away when I try to kiss her or touch her or give her oral sex, etc. She "rewards" me with sex by laying there and letting me do her for 2 minutes, then when I cum, she pushes me away and glad it's over.
Her "I love you" is even weak and I always say it first.
I work from my home office, so I take the kids to all after school activities, doctor appointments, teacher conferences, etc. I even cook every night (not warm up in the microwave, but COOK nice meals) and worry about most of the stuff for the kids. I'm respectful to my wife, don't abuse her, think the world of her, thinks she's the most gorgeous woman on earth, but I get the cold shoulder or the comment, "I'm just not feeling it" or "I work with guys all day, the last person I want to deal with when I get home is you" comment. Yes, she said that to me, but claims she does not remember saying it.
Guys, I'm at the point where I'm frustrated, resentful, mad as hell and need some love, intimacy, or just SOME respect for god sake!! I've tried everything - talking with her about it, confronting her, saying this is not right, etc...
I'm at the point where I am thinking of having an affair, just so I could get some human affection from SOMEBODY. Feel like I live with a freaking robot.
Any thoughts and suggestions?
Thanks,
pilotranger
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