I often think about why my ex wife suddenly decided I was the man for her after all (if you ignore me turning up at the OM's house and him finishing with her).
Why she craves my attention and complains if I don't look at her right, or talk to her or hug her or etc. etc. In a way that was never even remotely the case before her cheating.
I think I realised today why waywards that don't just run off seem to have an insatiable need for those cheated on:
Redemption.
Those that have an insight into their actions realise - in my ex wife's case sub consciously - that the only way to recover their self image is by forgiveness and acceptance by the person they harmed the most: their betrayed partner.
This, to me, explains the oddly intense need for attention and affection from somebody who, just weeks before, was worthless to them.
Of course, the worry is what happens if this forgiveness is given? I am sure some cheaters (for some reason I think of someday dig's partner) are remorseful and the redemption isn't the primary purpose for their change of mind, but this reaction also fits in with the often narcissistic tendencies of those that cheat.
What do you think? Am I being too cynical, or is this an obvious point?
Why she craves my attention and complains if I don't look at her right, or talk to her or hug her or etc. etc. In a way that was never even remotely the case before her cheating.
I think I realised today why waywards that don't just run off seem to have an insatiable need for those cheated on:
Redemption.
Those that have an insight into their actions realise - in my ex wife's case sub consciously - that the only way to recover their self image is by forgiveness and acceptance by the person they harmed the most: their betrayed partner.
This, to me, explains the oddly intense need for attention and affection from somebody who, just weeks before, was worthless to them.
Of course, the worry is what happens if this forgiveness is given? I am sure some cheaters (for some reason I think of someday dig's partner) are remorseful and the redemption isn't the primary purpose for their change of mind, but this reaction also fits in with the often narcissistic tendencies of those that cheat.
What do you think? Am I being too cynical, or is this an obvious point?
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