I've told my story, but for those who don't know here is a recap:
Me and H are 29. H is military and deploys often. We have 2 sons ages 2 years and 5 months. H said he has/had a porn issue in which he watches excessively and chose it over me on several occasions (even though I would prefer sex daily). H lies ALL the time. He returned from a deployment on April 11 this year. April 12 I gave birth to our second son. April 15 I found out about his affair in Afghanistan. He lied to me the whole time he was gone. We talked on Skype daily for 2 hours. He never felt bad. I caught him. He didn't openly confess and in fact lied about what really happened for a month before the truth came out.
When telling me the truth, he also admitted that he found my abdomen unattractive from having children and my booty wasn't big enough. ok. FTR I am 5'6 ish and 121lbs 5 months AFTER having a baby. I run daily and lift weights every other day for at least an hour. I don't have a 6 pack, but I am not a roley poley either.
My H said to me tonight that he finds me attractive now because he sees me in a whole new light. I thought to myself..."since when?" He's said this to me before he cheated to. I don't believe him and it really makes me angry when he says this. Clearly he can't change what he is attracted to right? People have preferences. Those don't change because you feel guilty for what you said.
I guess my question is why would he lie about this after he's admitted to not finding it attractive? He doesn't understand why I'm upset. Do I have a reason to be upset? I feel like he's just trying to get laid and really, after what he's done, it's going to take some genuine stuff.
Me and H are 29. H is military and deploys often. We have 2 sons ages 2 years and 5 months. H said he has/had a porn issue in which he watches excessively and chose it over me on several occasions (even though I would prefer sex daily). H lies ALL the time. He returned from a deployment on April 11 this year. April 12 I gave birth to our second son. April 15 I found out about his affair in Afghanistan. He lied to me the whole time he was gone. We talked on Skype daily for 2 hours. He never felt bad. I caught him. He didn't openly confess and in fact lied about what really happened for a month before the truth came out.
When telling me the truth, he also admitted that he found my abdomen unattractive from having children and my booty wasn't big enough. ok. FTR I am 5'6 ish and 121lbs 5 months AFTER having a baby. I run daily and lift weights every other day for at least an hour. I don't have a 6 pack, but I am not a roley poley either.
My H said to me tonight that he finds me attractive now because he sees me in a whole new light. I thought to myself..."since when?" He's said this to me before he cheated to. I don't believe him and it really makes me angry when he says this. Clearly he can't change what he is attracted to right? People have preferences. Those don't change because you feel guilty for what you said.
I guess my question is why would he lie about this after he's admitted to not finding it attractive? He doesn't understand why I'm upset. Do I have a reason to be upset? I feel like he's just trying to get laid and really, after what he's done, it's going to take some genuine stuff.
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