Thought it might be good to put ideas in this thread for spine building. After reading the posts for quite a while, I am noticing a common issue in the bs's.
Is there a better way to make them see how their lack of spine is so much a part of the damage done and the continuation of the damage going forward.
From lack of ability to out the AP, to making their WS behavior public knowledge, to the 180. They just have no spine. I understand and honestly do sympathize with how hurt they are, I truly do. This is why I want to brainstorm a better way of approaching getting them to see the err of their ways and the simple fact that so many of us know that the only real way to lift the fog is to expose and the only way to get them to honestly begin to R is through no contact and a BS ability to perform a a successful 180.
Time and time again, we are up against those who think the nice guy/gal approach will work. Time and again they hear the proven advice and choose to repeat a proven to fail approach.
Seems like insanity to me.
No one on here has ever rewarded their dog for chewing their shoe. Why reward a WS with being extra nice and "trying harder"?
Post any thoughts or ideas you may have or experiences you have.
Please do not fill this thread with, how hard it is and how damaged you are during...blah blah blah. I would like to make it more clear for people that are the weaker ones emotionally, to make it more obvious how this works, and how being nice is actually them choosing to allow the behavior with out realizing it and are indirectly encouraging it IMO. They are rewarding the dog.
Is there a better way to make them see how their lack of spine is so much a part of the damage done and the continuation of the damage going forward.
From lack of ability to out the AP, to making their WS behavior public knowledge, to the 180. They just have no spine. I understand and honestly do sympathize with how hurt they are, I truly do. This is why I want to brainstorm a better way of approaching getting them to see the err of their ways and the simple fact that so many of us know that the only real way to lift the fog is to expose and the only way to get them to honestly begin to R is through no contact and a BS ability to perform a a successful 180.
Time and time again, we are up against those who think the nice guy/gal approach will work. Time and again they hear the proven advice and choose to repeat a proven to fail approach.
Seems like insanity to me.
No one on here has ever rewarded their dog for chewing their shoe. Why reward a WS with being extra nice and "trying harder"?
Post any thoughts or ideas you may have or experiences you have.
Please do not fill this thread with, how hard it is and how damaged you are during...blah blah blah. I would like to make it more clear for people that are the weaker ones emotionally, to make it more obvious how this works, and how being nice is actually them choosing to allow the behavior with out realizing it and are indirectly encouraging it IMO. They are rewarding the dog.
Put the internet to work for you.
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