Not sure what to do

I have been married for 11 years this past September. For awhile now (several months), my wife and I it seems do more arguing/fighting (verbal, not physical) than we used to even a year or two ago. I realized before we married that we wouldn't agree on everything, and that there would be disputes. But I feel like lately we are growing apart more and more, and this makes me think of leaving more and more. Once, about 5 years ago, I did leave, but we reconciled later and everything was fine. Most times I feel like I can't even have an opinion on something without my wife getting very angry with me and even sometimes yelling and cursing at me when we have a simple difference of opinion. Sometimes she says something needs done, and if I don't do it either right that second, or do it differently than she feels it needs done, even though there may be more than one way of accomplishing the task, she gets very upset and starts yelling or talks like I don't unders tand what she wants. On top of everything else, I have felt for awhile that a friend of mine has feelings for me that are more than just friends, and I think I have feelings for her as well. To complicate things even more, she is much younger than I am (about 20 years younger). I haven't seen her in quite some time, but believe those feelings are still there. I have often thought about if my wife and I did separate/divorce, that I would tell the friend how I feel, and find out if she had those same feelings in return. I don't believe age is a factor with love if you truly are in love with someone. I have an aunt who is about 20 years younger than her husband, and they have been married for probably 25 or 30 years now. When I was around my friend in the past, I felt like I could tell her anything, and she wouldn't judge me or look down on me for it. We have a lot in common and I just feel like we would be good for each other if we were in a more intimate relationship. Does an yone have any advice on what I should do, and how to best handle things with my wife? I haven't been able to tell her how I feel about our marriage, as things have been kind of hectic with my job lately, and I'm always trying to think of a way to tell her my feelings without her getting too angry at me. It just seems there never is a good time to talk to her about it. What should I do?

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