I am new to this forum. Let me see where I should start with my story. I been married for almost 7 years. The marriage had its unresolved problems from both parties. I was scare to show affection (i.e. give him hugs and kisses) and he is uncomfortable with communicating with me on his feelings. We been to some counseling and things will get better so we stop. Eventually, we both will fall back to our normal self.
Well, the past months have been hell for the both of us. We just purchased a new house in April, move in in May, his brother and my dog were diagnosed with cancer, they both passed away in Sep, and my husband left me on Oct. 1st. This came as a shock to me. I knew things were not great but had no clue it was bad enough to give up. His explaination was his brother's death made him realize that life is short and he needs to be happy and happy equal not having me in the picture because I bring too much pain. I tired to ask him to give us one more chance but he said he just do not see how I can change.
During all this, I realized what a selfish person I am and how much soul searching is needed on my part to better myself. Yes, I still want the marriage to work but the only thing I can do at this point is to better myself. After he moved out, he did tell me he is very confused about what he should do and need some time to himself to think things through.
The past few days had a lot of ups and downs. One min I feel good about everything and the next I feel so sad without him. I keep on searching the internet to find out if this is really the end.
Friday, he came over to the house unannounced. He said he was there to pick up some package that came for him. We started having a good conversation about what we have been doing (nothing about our marriage). I asked if he wanted to sit down and talk. He answered no but continue to stand there as if he do want to say something. Argh, life is so confusing. Finally, he was able to pick up his stuff and go back to his hotel. I am still at the house trying to better myself for myself and at the same time wonder if he will even come back. I wish he will tell me this is the end and get a divorce lawyer involve so I can start closing this door.
In your experience, when will a man finally make up his mind? I will never end this marriage like this because I know I have not given it is chance and I know I can change to better myself. How much time do I need to give him given there is no arguement, no affair, nothing that really sparked this except he is still in grief? Also, is this really sound like it is over? Did I make the biggest mistake in my life to not realize that I should have try harder in the past instead of just trying half-heartedly?
Well, the past months have been hell for the both of us. We just purchased a new house in April, move in in May, his brother and my dog were diagnosed with cancer, they both passed away in Sep, and my husband left me on Oct. 1st. This came as a shock to me. I knew things were not great but had no clue it was bad enough to give up. His explaination was his brother's death made him realize that life is short and he needs to be happy and happy equal not having me in the picture because I bring too much pain. I tired to ask him to give us one more chance but he said he just do not see how I can change.
During all this, I realized what a selfish person I am and how much soul searching is needed on my part to better myself. Yes, I still want the marriage to work but the only thing I can do at this point is to better myself. After he moved out, he did tell me he is very confused about what he should do and need some time to himself to think things through.
The past few days had a lot of ups and downs. One min I feel good about everything and the next I feel so sad without him. I keep on searching the internet to find out if this is really the end.
Friday, he came over to the house unannounced. He said he was there to pick up some package that came for him. We started having a good conversation about what we have been doing (nothing about our marriage). I asked if he wanted to sit down and talk. He answered no but continue to stand there as if he do want to say something. Argh, life is so confusing. Finally, he was able to pick up his stuff and go back to his hotel. I am still at the house trying to better myself for myself and at the same time wonder if he will even come back. I wish he will tell me this is the end and get a divorce lawyer involve so I can start closing this door.
In your experience, when will a man finally make up his mind? I will never end this marriage like this because I know I have not given it is chance and I know I can change to better myself. How much time do I need to give him given there is no arguement, no affair, nothing that really sparked this except he is still in grief? Also, is this really sound like it is over? Did I make the biggest mistake in my life to not realize that I should have try harder in the past instead of just trying half-heartedly?
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