Just venting

I know I have been a little on edge lately. I try to reserve myself, and never get angry over stuff. Especially the little things. I have already done threads on the big problems in my relationship and I am trying to stay motivated working on them. This post is just because I am pissed and I want to take it out in a thread and not cause a fight. WTF I am so tired. This morning I woke up early like always to take the dog out. Hopped in the shower and about half way through I started hearing gurgling noises from the toilet. I know the guts of the duplex and I can pretty much guarantee with in 3 feet where the clog is. I do absolutely everything I can on the duplex, and super rarely hire out. However I know my limits of time and tools. So I woke my wife up and told her what was up and that she needed to call a plumber in a few hours, and gave her a short list of the companies I trust. I also asked her to talk to the tenant and tell him what is up since I know it would also be causing issues there. I am at work now and she just called me back. She said she called a plumber and got it set up in a few hours. She then said she talked to the tenant and he said it was backing up, and added that his toilet has been running a little lately. I told her thank you for calling the plumber and telling the tenant, but I am sure I know what is wrong with the toilet and I will fix it when I get home. That's when she got snippy and said she would just have the plumber look at it since he was coming out. Maybe I am just moody I don't know, but it royally pissed me off. I told her I have dealt with this literally dozens of times. It is probably just a cheap plastic flapper that gets warped and grimy from deposits in the water. I can swap it out in less than a hour its no big deal. She went on to say it has to be done today, and that she would rather just have the plumber do it. I got upset and told her I am not paying a plumber $70 an hour to replace a $2 part in an $80 toilet. I would rather rip the entire toilet out and put another one in (not as extreme as it sounds, I removed our toilet 7 times in less then a week when she decided she wanted stripes in the bathroom, and the white was just never the right stripiness) than pay a plumber a couple hundred bucks to dink around and replace the guts inside of it, when I am more than capable of fixing the single issue it probably has. There are so many other things I would rather put that money towards. Not to mention her biggest and constant complaint is money. I don't make enough, I don't save enough, and I spend too much (although this one is not as common since I cut out junk food) She always acts like I don't do anything. As if I am some lazy POS who sits around and does jack all day. Which is pretty hypocritical considering her ass is glued to the couch and her eyes to her Iphone. Yesterday I did double laundry to just finish it off. I did dishes even though we have been eating separately and I have not been making any. I swept the living room, bedroom and kitchen. Took out all the trash and recycling, and pulled the containers to the curb for pickup. Took the dog on 3 walks. I mowed the side yard and picked up all the dogs toys (way way too many) and cleaned her pool out. I fixed a broken kitchen drawer. I thought about moving on to mapping my soon to be drain trench, but I have been doing good with exercise and diet so I took some time for myself. I put in 45 minutes out in the garage doing my mini circuit twice, then spent 30 minutes or so organizing the shop side of the garage, and then back to do the circuit once more. Given this was my day off, but to be treated like I am not at least trying to get stuff done. I am just so tired and frustrated. I am somebody who normally just lets things roll off me (TAM has already pretty firmly identified me as having a lot of nice guy issues). I don't know if it is the exercise or the weight loss or stress. I don't know. Emotionally I feel like a powder keg. and breath. Alright I am going to step down off my box and try to forget about it until I go home. Why couldn't this happen yesterday. She probably would not even know it ever happened, but today she cares. Whatever.

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Lubricating toys?

Ok was chatting on the phone with my W tonight and as they are leaving for home tomorrow we briefly discussed the sex shop being open on a Sunday, and perhaps I might like to get her a little surprise in for her return? Now we do have a little bit of anal play and always have, it has just never amounted to PIA penetration, she does have a butt plug I bought as a surprise a good while back, we have used it a handful of times but she always remarks about lubrication issues, now we use Astroglide since it was so highly recommended on here and everyone says it should be no problem at all, I did consider the desensitizing lube for the first time PIA penetration as I remarked on someone else's thread. But I wonder and have thus far found nothing on the net relating to anal toys that can have lube squirted through them to lubricate inside as well as copious amounts outside and on the toy. Any ideas? I am considering buying a cheap one for 10 euro and modifying it to suit my ideas but if it readily available then maybe better? Anyone with anything to offer?

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Not sure what to do?

Today I used the i phone tracker and my husband was suppose to be at work. I found out he was at work. I called him asked what he was doing? I said what are you doing good morning he works night shift as a medic. He said playing a game on the computer. I know it was a lie I tracked him all the way back to work on his phone. not letting him know til he reached two minutes of work. He then said I will show you a picture I am at work which I saw he was by the tracker. The reason I was tracking him is I don't trust him. I caught him lying to me before. He had an emotional affair a few years back. Then since then he started working with a woman. She is going threw divorce. He didn't want me to know he was working with her. So he lied to me for six months and I found out cause another nurse told me. He was working with her. I don't think she is who he may be cheating with but its always possible. The nurse that told me to begin with would probably tell me. We went for counseling and we needed to stop for financial reasons. We were about to leave for disney. My kids are so disappointed. I cannot believe he is lying and I have no idea why. He worked 90 hour shifts to afford this trip. why would you screw all that up? why is he lying it's like he has a double life. I told him I want a divorce. I cannot stay married to someone who is lying. He told me he is not lying. The tracker is wrong which is was not. So he now wants a divorcee also. cause I accused him of lying. So that's fine. The kicker is he wants me to apoligize to him for accusing him of lying. He will not admit he is not being faithful. I think he may be meeting his exgirlfriend from before we meet and she was working this morning. When I talked with his partner he said I am sorry but I need to work with him I can't get involved. I said to him he should not involve you by taking you to meet whomever. He said I am sorry mam. My son's cousin I talked with him and he said the same thing I need to work with him I can't tell you. I told my son's cousin I will not tell him anything I just want to know to file for divorce. My husband keeps saying the tracker is wrong. Iphone tracker. What would you do? I am pretty sure I need to walk away I cannot fix something with someone who will not come clean. I am going through so much already. Being sick going through testing for ms and I found a breast lump and I have a kidney tumor that needs to be removed. I didn't need this.

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Texas men can get pregnant?

Something Needs To Be Done About All These Men In Texas Having Abortions, Because None Of Them Are Happy Now This is beyond weird.

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Advice needed:

I am new here. I just found this through googling. I'm not one to post on these type of places online. I have been married 17 yrs. 4 children. I'm devoted mother and wife..I LOVE ART and walking. I don't drink or smoke. I have friends, but we do things occasionally..it's not like I'm with them hanging out with them. I'm very family oriented and also volunteered as girl scout leader for 6yrs and volunteer at my church as usher. I've been having some issues with my husband throughout my marriage. About every couple of months he gets in this mood. During his moods..he'll either: throw things, smash things, scream very loudly, threaten me, stalk me down the street, be foul mouthed. He likes to buy vehicles on loan ..had about 14 vehicles on loan..financially strapping us. Then expects me to just get over it. He's had 4 episodes like this in the past month. Sometimes I call the police because he's so loud and I can't take it anymore. He says I shouldn't call the cops on him OR confide in anyone the things he does. I filed for divorce because I felt helpless and hopeless. I'm so conflicted right now with 4 children..they range in ages of 16, 15, 11, and 8. I've asked for counceling and he denies I need it. I asked him to get help..he says NO. Then he changes his mind and says he'll get counceling. Then says "What good will it do us" Anyway, he didn't pay the rent and now we are being evicted. I was considering maybe we should live seperately..but it'll be such a financial burden..but then again..maybe he'll get the help he needs. Maybe we'll reconnect again..maybe not. He says the marriage is ruined because I have told my family what goes on in our marriage. I don't just tell them things at random..when he's out yelling at me in the driveway and disconnecting the battery to my car, or telling me to run him over..What am I supposed to do??? I call for HELP! I'm so conflicted at this point in my life!

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whats the most explicit (legit) pics a girl has sent you/you have sent to a guy?

so not including spambots i'm curious as i don't seem to get any and I think the ship may have sailed from when i was in school! I think the most explicit i've got is boobs which seem to be most common, never anything else what have you got/sent? (only interesting in girls cos guys are generally sick ****s and send whatever they like ;D )

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Known sexual offender making dirty remarks

What would you do if someone you had to associate with for the next few weeks (and a convicted sexual offender) and much older than you kept making obviously dirty innuendos whenever he spoke to you and looking down your top? Seriously want to just punch him but that would unfortunately probably get me in trouble. I don't have to work with him any more but I do have to speak to him on the phone for a couple more weeks, I find him bloody disgusting. Can't give away the reasons on here but it's unavoidable. Unfortunately, some people I can't avoid don't think he's such a bad person. Please keep anon or delete FOR.

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How do you know who is right for you?

Is it just an arbitrary decision, seeing as how so many people are interesting or attractive.

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What is love?

Describe it to me, I am too old to not have felt it, I need to know if any feelings I've had of late are it. I know they are different, but have no clue.

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I only go where I feel wanted

This thing has been playing in my mind for just over a year now and I'm currently swimming out of it but I didn't think I'd be in this situation ever. My dilemma stems from my body dysmorphia, and how unattractive I feel to women in direct relation. I am a bisexual guy. As a bisexual guy, who's a bit muscular and hairy (read bear), I found that I was getting so much more attention from gay men than women; or maybe I am oblivious to some women. Either way, I have geared my attraction to completely become invested in gay men. A side effect of this, is that I am now resentful towards women. Some may say insecure, but it's becoming a hate-filled cesspool inside me and I don't know how to stop, nor am I sure that I want to stop it. It's at the point now where even though I have a lot of guys telling me that I'm hot, my previous experience is overriding any positive feedback I get. I am only investing my time and worth where I feel I am getting any sort of return, and that's with men. For the first time in a long time, I feel at ease now that I have a boyfriend, who is half of my physical type but stimulates my mind so much that I'm slowly beginning to love myself again. I am just filled with hate towards women and I just don't know what to do with it.

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I find it hard to believe that people can have emotionless sex.

Just a little rant. It confuses me how people can have meaningless sex, such as being friends with benefits. Especially if the person who you are doing it with happens to be a close friend or even worse an ex. I find it really odd, im actually in a FWB thing currently and it's the most ridiculous thing ever. I know the guy does not want a relationship with me, and yet here I am still agreeing to have sex. Why? because I am clearly insane. That's another thing, I realise it isn't just me who is having intercourse with my ex; it seems other people do it too. It just makes it worse, the feelings resurface and I go home feeling like utter crap. It was meant to stop as it was becoming complicated, but it hasn't. Every time I visit him it just happens, even when im not intending it to. I feel as though it has to end, but im not "strong" enough to call it quits. When people say you can be friends with an ex its bull****. How are you meant to be fr iends with someone who essentially broke your heart and still find immensely attractive every time you see them? You'll always want more, always. I will always want more. We used to be exclusive, but that's ended now and we are just regular friends with benefits; meaning he can sleep with other people as well now. He said he still has feelings for me, it isn't love, but he likes me more than just a friend, yet doesn't want a relationship again. Correct me if im wrong, but im sure friends with benefits do not cuddle whilst sleeping and kiss constantly

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Guy help

I recently met this guy at work, we instantly clicked on personality level and got on, talking and laughing loads. I lusted for him a lot and sometimes I'd catch him looking at me, you know the staring then looking away. There were definite vibes at first, for me, at least. But then I found out he had a girlfriend. Now I just feel weird. I don't know what to do cause I'm gonna be seeing him every day for a while so I can't just cut contact with him and forget him to make it easier. Yet I can't just get along and be friends with him because he makes my heart skip a beat and it's painful to be friends with someone who does that to you. I hate the kind of acting where you just pretend you don't like someone cause I feel like I'm lying to myself. Argh I don't know I just feel in a really weird position because I like feel such strong vibes which he obviously can't feel if he has his girlfriend who he's seeing in his free time. Help.

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Girls, your fav hair & eye combination on a guy.

What is your favorite colour hair and eye colour conbination on a guy. I have brown hair and light blue eyes, which alot of girls have told me is rare?

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After Seeing your Crush(Female) in Mall

I was in the mall with couple of friends. Suddenly I saw my Crush sitting with her friends in Cafe in mall. She saw me and I just gave her a glance. I was shy and didnt respond or said Hi. We dont usually talk. we Just talk on Facebook. I know I screw up every time with these situations and Im feeling sorry now :( The only solution I have is to respond hger on Facebook where I chat with her alot. Please advice me what should I say her on Facebook or How should I start?

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Need to... "Come out"

Need to come out.... not that sure on how to do it. My sister rants on about gays being a different race and when my uncle came out my dad was upset. Sooo yeah. How this convo is going to go down I don't know.... :S

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