I just can't get over him

Hello TSR, Things ended between me and my ex four months ago, basically because he was honest with me and told me that he couldn't deal with my religious beliefs, and that he struggled not having a sexual relationship. Our differences became to much, and I know it's for the best that we parted, it wouldn't have been fair to ask him to carry on. I'm happy he was honest with me, but still I felt hurt. Now I saw today that he's moved on, and is in a new relationship. That's fine, it's to be expected. But seeing it just made me burst into tears and feel worthless. Now I know that's not his fault or this new girl (I don't want to pass judgement on her as I don't know her), but I honestly thought I was slowly but surely getting over him and trying to move on with my life. I threw myself into exams, so I forgot him for a while. But my exams finished last month and I've been stuck in limbo waiting for results. I've been trying to focus on getting fit, writing and reading for pleasure and prayin g, but I just feel stuck. I don't know how to get over him. Please help

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Arkwardness

Me and my gf are afraid (nervous) to speak to eachother in person unless we are alone (since we are both shy) and we speak way more on fb its quite weird what do u think I should do?

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How do I get my ex back?

Hey pals, I've been dating this girl for 5 months. We had an on and off relationship. I'm crazy about her, but she is not that crazy about me. Even before we broke up she told me, she sees me as a friend more than a bf. And I asked her then why she is with me, and she said she is with me because I support her. That killed me. And then we broke up. Actually she broke up. And there was nothing I could do. I know there is billions of women etc, but I'm still crazy about her. I want her. Relationship ended 2 weeks ago, and I haven't talked to her for 10 days. I'm at rock bottom now. I'm crying all the time, don't enjoy anything. I lost 6 kg, I stopped socializing. I even spent my last 2 days in bad, watching movies and crying. The only good thing happened to me in this last 2 weeks is that I got a new job and it is my dream job. But still I can't focus on it fully and my efficieny is not so good. I'm still thinking about her all the time. I'm creeping on her. Checking her whatsapp status, count of her twitter tweets, her facebook profile picture. Damn, this is just too hard. I'm sure some of you experienced what I'm experiencing now. What should I do? How can I get her back? Thank you.

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I Feel Bad Even Writing This!

Hi All, Firstly some Facts: New on this Forum In a 10 year relationship Have an 8 year old together 27 years old myself Living abroad since 2008 in my boyfriends hometown My home is a 14 hour flight away Basically Ive been miserable since the day I got here, its a dangerous but beautiful country, Ill admit that... But I just dont feel right here. My relationship with my boyfriend (marriage is not for me) has been very blehhhh for the last few years. My gut is telling me its close to over but then I have days where I dont think it is, and maybe its just how things are... Then recently Ive become relatively worse with my anxiety/depression and although I know I can be hard to live with, he makes and has made no effort whatsoever to cheer me up or make my life here with him a little more fun, not even slightly! We do NOTHING together, even after my attempts to go dancing or go for dinner, simple shit like that... He just shrugs it off, he's tired, we dont have the money for it etc etc blah blah blah:mad: But when hes with his friends its all smiles and laughs.. See??? that hurts me... Like im not worth the effort but they get all his f*ckin attention.. Basically in a nut shell, IM BORED OUT OF MY MIND. I just wanna meet someone fun and have someone love me enough to wanna make me happy.. I wouldnt mind, my boyfriend is extremely handsome and fit, but that doesnt even matter anymore. Ive gone passed that.. I dont know what to do anymore. I cant just run home coz we have a child together, and things will just be so f*cked up if I do that... But Im so unhappy and over our relationship... So sorry to bombard you guys with all that chat, but I dont know what else to do... I wanna RUN. I have panic attacks I wanna run away that bad but I dont... I deal with it!! I have wrinkles and bags under my eyes from crying so much about it... and I feel like im wasting my 20's away sittin on a couch watching shit tv every night... Looking across at him with this horrible feeling in my gut that we're wasting time, day by day, night by night just wasting time with one another!! What would you do????[/font]

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My inability to speak clearly is affecting my life

I have issues being clear and coherent in my speech when I talk to people. Sometimes I stuttuer, slur my words, mumble and have difficulty saying a word and miss syllables even sometimes. I don't know why I do this - it's different in different situations. When I'm with my friends and I want to say something on my mind, it comes into effect but when I'm with my same friends and I'm just having fun and not trying to speak about something in particular, I can just let it all out albeit I also speak really fast when I do this and I'm still misunderstood. But because of this difference, I don't know if it's all purely psychological or something else. Say I'm in my room alone and I try read aloud to myself, even then I get a bit tongue-tied sometimes and I feel so frustrated. I can sometimes read a whole sentence perfectly but it sounds obvious that I'm enunciating and pronouncing words really strongly in my mouth. I don't know how to improve this - it's really affecting my confidence and as my confidence drops, my ability to speak worsens. It's horrible in interviews and phone calls too. I'm misunderstood so much - people don't understand what I'm saying and my friends joke about it too. I'm in social situations a lot and I don't get nerve issues so I don't know if it's an anxiety problem. I just want to get better at speaking. Does anyone have any solutions?

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Winning back my ex gf.

I plan to win back my ex. She broke up with me a week ago because she couldn't reciprocate my love for her. But I, as well as all my friends, believe its the exams messing with her as she is extremely worked up about them. And before they started, she was fine. So the next time we are meeting is in 2 weeks time as friends. I want to ask her out again. Can I please have helpful advice? I've asked this before I know, but I've received quite unhelpful advice.... So far I've been replying to her texts every 3 hours with like 2 words and she's been wondering what's up. And she's said she is missing me. I plan to ignore her like this for a bit longer, so she realises she misses me, and then ask her out again. My question is, should I leave more time before I ask her out?

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Am I being selfish?

hi, I'm quite nervous posting this here..but I need advice. Because there's so much going through my head that I don't know what is wrong or right any more. I married when I was 16 which is quite normal in my culture. And I'm married for 9 years now. It was more like an arranged marriage with my permission. My husband asked to marry me and during our engagement( about 4 months) we got to know each other a bit and got married. My husband is a good person who loves me and our kids. And takes care of us.Is a responsible person. But the problem is that he is quite controlling,likes everything his way. And we are total opposites in personality he get angry and irritated quickly when I do something wrong. For example if he asked me to do something and I forget he gets angry and says things like ' you can't do anything right etc.' Even though I do everything around the house. I never ask him to do any cooking or cleaning or even prepare his own stuff such as clothes etc. I don't mind doing doing things for him and the housework but I would like some appreciation. He hardly says thank you but he is quick with criticizing me and telling me what and how I did something wrong. About 5 days out of the 7 he has to argue with me. I'm thinking this is my fault because for the last 9 years I've always put what I want aside..just because I'm tired of arguing and I don't want my kids to grow up like this. Most of the time when there is an argument I stay quiet and let him say what he wants because I don't want things to get worse. Because this has happened before and he will end up saying very hurtful things I know I'm not the perfect wife..I'm not really organized..and he likes everything organized. And I forget easily. But at the same time I'm caring,loving and try to be there to support him when has difficult times. I never say hurtful things to him..and always try to discuss things in a calm matter out of fear to hurt his feelings. Now I'm at the stage that I don't think I love him any more..but I'm staying in this marriage for him and my kids. I know he loves his children a lot and I don't want to separate them. I'm feeling guilty for being selfish and ashamed of thinking of divorce. I've been in a marriage since I was 16..I really don't know how where to start on my own. And also my parents..in my culture divorce is a very big issue..the entire family will get involved. In my culture a good marriage means a husband supports his wife and kids..the wife stays home and take cares of the kids and the house..and that's about it. If you have that it means you're in a good marriage. Am I being selfish for wanting to divorce? thanks for reading..and I hope you can give me some advise

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Dh packed and left... Then came back

A short history. We've been married for just under a year. When we got married he was working. Had a decent job. I was not working (at his request) but found a job shortly after (also at his request). He got fired then started working temp jobs. I had a few leads on better jobs, and honestly I was tired of going in at 5:30 am so I quit mine. Then dh quit his. I got 2 jobs within a month, then got better hours at the higher paying one so I started working just that one. It's been 6 months with me being the only bread winner. Needless to say we've been arguing about finances. Dh wanted to move back in with his gma, but I don't think it's a good idea. Last Sunday he packed everything he could fit into his jeep and called me to let me know. I wasn't aware how much he took until I got home that night. He literally took everything but furniture and kitchen stuff. The fan in the bedroom, the blanket over the Window, and the cup on the coffee table with pens to name a few petty things! Early Monday he asked to come back. It was 1 or 2 am. I said no. Around noon he came over and we talked. I told him I thought a break would be good for us. Maybe we just needed to reconnect to our early dating days. Well the sil put her 2 cents in and I didn't want to cause a huge deal so dh came back that night. The thing is, I'm so angry and I feel so betrayed and he doesn't seem to understand he broke my trust by leaving. I no longer respect him. In fact, I feel as if he was a coward because he couldn't tell me to my face. I've tried to explain, but he turns it to a "poor me" session. Other than him spending a day putting in apps nothing has changed. The house is trashed, and there is no food. I might as well be on my own. (with me working and him not we agreed he'd take care of the house) I don't want him sexually anymore, and I'd rather do anything than to spend time with him because I don't want to lash out and hurt what little of our old relationship we have. Am I wrong here?

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Do girls care about their boyfriends houses?

I really like this girl but am embarrassed to invite her round as my house isn't great. It's in a nice area, but my parents have been looking to move for quite a while so haven't really spent anything on the interior so its a bit tatty in places, but not dirty or anything. It's not like we're poor or anything, but I always feel worse when i go round to friends houses and they're really nice, and especially this girl's who's is massive! Will it make any difference to anything? Thanks in advance!

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Should i lower my standards?

I feel like my standards for girls are ridiculously high. I want a girl who Isnt a slut or a whore Doesn't smoke Doesn't do drugs (except medicine) Doesn't drink (Or if she does then doesn't get drunk) Doesn't party I don't really like party girls as they are wild and will harm themselves and i dont want to be with a girl who gets drunk as i'm against alcohol myself. Are these standards way too unrealistic? I highly doubt theres a girl who fits into all of these so how should i lower these standards?

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Are 'independent' men a turn-off?

What do people think of independent men, essentially 'loners' who are so because of their natural temperament/need for calm and solitude (and which has nothing to do with being socially awkward). It's also centred around the fact that most of my hobbies are geared on the introverted side (piano, guitar, photography, programming etc) The best way to describe me is that I am completely my own man. I have a wealth of friends (or more so, acquaintances) but I spend the vast majority of my time alone. I am also not a groupie and tend to find myself drifting between groups. I have spent the last few years thinking there was something wrong with me, perhaps it was a shyness but I've now realised it's just who I am and my natural temperament. Anyhow, how do women view these types of men? Would you consider going out with a guy who was self-sufficient to an extreme?

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Is there hope

My wife had an accident about 3 years ago and it caused her to do go through a lot. She started seeing a counselor and taking some medicine for stress. After seeing the counselor for a while she changed her lock code on her phone and password on her facebook account.. We had always been open with each other and had each others passwords, but she said she needed her privacy. I tried to respect that and did not push the issue. Now she has lost 70 lbs and is still seeing the counselor. She has changed her attitude toward life and is a totally different person. She is going out with friends and enjoying life. She has come to realize that some of the things I was doing she does not like. She said I pushed her from her friends and was not there for her when I should have been. We did not talk about the accident much because she did not seem to want to talk to me about it and her counseling session she did not want to talk about. We use to goto a Mexican restaurant on Friday nights and I would have a few drinks and sometimes get mean after the drinks. I have since stopped that. I agree I may not have spent enough time with my kids and I am changing that. I have even started seeing a counselor. Now she says our marriage has a 50/50 chance. She will be constantly texting on her phone while the family is watching a movie. She has stopped wearing her wedding band and says she wants her cake and eat it too. I am really trying to save my marriage but it is hard when all I hear from her is the negative things about me. Some days she seems like she wants me around and other days I thinks she could care less. We have a boy who is 10 and a girl who is 8. I want to save my marriage but I have told her I feel like it is over and she wants to throw me out. She says if she wanted to do that she would have done it a long time ago.

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Unhappy but can't bring myself to leave

Ive been married almost a year, in a relationship for almost 7 years. My husband cheated on me while he was away at work about 2 years ago and while this made things worse, we havent been totally happy for some time. I have a real problem with spending money (he works in a high paying job earning about $3000 a week) and works away for 2 weeks out of three. we have a 3 year old and one on the way in a couple of months time. I have not been interested in sex at all with him for about 12 months now, we have a few times, but im not into it at all. I've recently found myself crushing on another man (who is not single) and while i would never ever act on it, i cant help but think that it means im obviously in my marriage for the wrong reasons. Trouble is, I have no idea how I would support my kids financially and thats whats keeping me here. Advice please>>>???

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Why you won't make love to me

Is it because, I make the kids breakfast and lunch almost every morning? Is it because your mom was in town and I treated her well? Is it because I make a dinner that is too boring? When I cleaned the house, did you not like the smell?? Why won't you make love to me... Is my desire too high for you to handle? Am I out too late with the boys? Is it because I lit the wrong candle? Did I not clear the room full of toys? A little sex is all I am after. I think I have put in the time. I hold your hand in sadness and laughter. I miss our love yours and mine. I sat through that chick flick, which was a disaster. Weren't the flowers for mother's day on time? Why won't you make love to me? We have heat and air and a car and truck. Just give me an hour so we can f**k. Are you upset because I saved that little girls life? I bet her mom would do me, and not care about my wife. You will wake up, and smell the cafe. And maybe I'll still be here. All it will take is a roll in the hay. Are just queer? I do all the right things, you say I do. I want to feel like a man. I hope it's with you.

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Am I being stupid?

So, basically. Been going out with my bf for about 4 months now and it was going good, apart from a couple of dips. However, recently we were going to go out for a day, and then he waited until two days before to say he couldn't afford it / didn't want to go. We were supposed to be going to a party this weekend but he told me yesterday that he couldn't go because he had an exam the next morning. Now had he told me this two weeks ago when I had first mentioned the party, or over the last couple of weeks when I had been saying about going, then I wouldn't have really minded. But the fact I had started looking forward to it and believed he was actually coming, for him to say no I'm not coming, I was a bit pissed off. He said he hadn't told me because he had been distracted, but he could have told me 2 weeks ago. Am I wrong to pissed off at him? Also, recently, it feels like he doesn't listen to me I tell him something and then he's forgotten the next day, like I'll ask him how his exam went and then when my exam comes round he'll be like, oh yeah, which one was it? When I had told him the previous day. Also it's starting to feel like he just wants me for sex, every week its like I'll go round his, we'll have sex, he'll play his games for a while, then I'll go home. Is it just exam stress at the moment, or have I done something wrong? I'm just feeling a bit depressed at the moment. :(

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