| with a guy looking at your big boobs if he never all about the big boobs in the first place? Like he liked everything about you? or do some don't mind if he is looking as he is drooling like a dog or acting you are just a pair of boobs lol..... | |||
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When you have had enough let it out. A forum style blog about relationship issues and concerns,join in and have your say.
Girls would you be okay..
Is it sad that my only real goal in life is to find love?
| I'm a 21 year old woman. As much as I've tried to force myself into chasing a high-flying career, deep down I realise I genuinely don't really care about all that stuff very much. I do care about having a job, but I'm not too fussed what it is as long as it's reasonably respectable and earns me a satisfactory wage to live decently. I care more about hobbies and friends and social life, and finding the perfect partner. The latter of which I've been finding incredibly difficult, as I'm one of those people who just find it very difficult to attract people and enter any relationships. This has naturally made me depressed for the past few years. To try and counteract this, I've just been really trying to find hobbies to help fulfil my life and throw myself into them, as well as do things and go new places to increase my chances of finding someone. I've also been using online dating on and off since I was 18, but not had any luck with it so far. Some people tell me to just stop worrying, and just concentrate on other things, that relationships aren't important. I've even been accused of being desperate, and maybe I am at times, but why is how I feel seen as wrong? Isn't it more natural to desire a mate and create offspring than to live to be another rat in the corporate race? Believe or not, priorities can vary from person to person, right? In some cultures it's pretty normal to grow up and just expect to become a housewife, but here and now that's looked down upon and people push you into career even if your mind and personality may not be that way inclined, which I find sad. Does anyone else feel like this? I'm not even very sure why I'm writing this to be honest. Just wanting to vent. I'm guessing all I can do is keep concentrating on hobbies and social life to keep me buzzing until my prince charming hopefully one day materialises... | |||
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I hate my job.
| I know I have been starting quite a few threads lately, bit so much shit is going on...so I'm sorry! I work as a live-in Caregiver which means I work 24 hour shifts. I am currently working 4 of them per week. My paychecks every other week range from $650-775. I'm going nuts with my job and I don't think I can handle it much longer. I miss being home at night and having some sort of life. I'm worried that I can't find a good job with equal pay. I pay $550 a month in rent, plus phone bill and gas and food....plus quite a few other bills. No college education and a wonderful HS dropout. Any ideas on what I could look for or should I suck it up for a while longer? | |||
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Do I have an unrealistic view of sex?
| As a girl, I think I have a normal view of sex, but when talking it through with my boyfriend and just general chat, maybe it seems I have an unrealistic view of it? The first time in particular, I imagined it to be all romantic, and perfectly thought through, waking up together and it just being perfect! But, going to a boarding school...this is immediately unrealistic...and also my parents are not keen on the idea of allowing me and him to share a room... Am i being too romantic and thinking it will be all lovely and perfect and everything will be so great, is reality really totally different?! | |||
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Would you date someone with teeth like this...?
| Ok so little backstory... I have dated girls in the past but to be totally honest they have usually just been the whole "i'm insecure, your insecure lets get together" mindset. I did have a 3 year relationship with a girl I loved and she loved me so i'm a decent bloke in a relationship. That long term girl put up with me when I was drinking 8+ cans of coke a day for around a year (6 years ago now!) and this is what caused all the damage. Nowadays (and for the past year) my oral hygiene has been excellent despite the gradual decline in teeth quality. I have cut out fizzy drinks altogether and brush at least 3 times a day. I also have a nice personality as well and have had healthy relationships in the past. Now I find it very hard approaching girls and opening up due to my teeth. | |||
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I just drank 1/4 bottle whiskey, ate a donner kebab and smoked 2 cigarettes and now..
| my lungs feel like they're on fire. Should I be worried? I seemed to be doing this a lot lately. But everytime I try to eat healthy and do an exercise regime people keep telling me to "get a life" and they all love to drink, smoke and/or eat fast food. I don't like it because it makes me feel crappy, also I seem to get fatter much quicker than most people. I try to do what's in my best interest so why do people insult me for it? But i'm worried now because i've started to cough a lot more than I used to, am getting quite doughy and honestly think I might be becoming pre-diabetic. I've been smoking for over 1 year and been drinking quite heavily for about 4. I'm wondering whether the damage from this lifestyle is permanent. | |||
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How can I stop feeling pressure/worrying what others think?
| Ok so im 28, never had a boyfriend/sex, still live with parents etc but feel like im somehow in the wrong/negatively judged lol. Ive not had a relationship because i like my own company and dont really attract men in fact some have told me i look about 14  I do get ID'd for stuff but id say i look older than this. Anyway yea so id like a bf i guess if i liked him but i cant imagine ever getting one. I dont really mix well with typical people my age mainly because they start ignoring me and see me as being on a different wavelength, im not girly and dont follow fashion and all that.As for still living with parents I have a job (as a support worker) so im not on regular pay. This means that if i move out which ive seriously thought about id probably end up on housing benefit when i cant get shifts/lose my job (they are cutting back). So Im just wondering how can i be not so weird? Im up for being normal if anyone has any ideas. I do feel the pressure since people my age are married and all that I still sometimes feel like a kid, am i emotionally immature or somethng would you say? I do have a hobby i go running sometimes with a club but i train every night and i sort of obsess over it like I think of it as my priority. I need something to focus on and dont think that i think like others. Reading this made me feel a bit better http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/20...ental-home-ons I dont know, what do you think? | |||
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Should i ask her on a date!?
| so, i've been talking to this girl who who i've known since college and we're getting on really well! we have loads of things in common especially music as we're both musicians. here's the thing, we wasn't in the same course she was 2 years lower. thats not the issue though cause anyone can join any course after leaving high school. So i'm 22, and she's 17 but is 18 in April. i want to ask her on a date but i feel that the age difference may look bad i'm 23 this September.. what does anyone else think? am i being stupid? | |||
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Spent my whole youth on the computer...
| I turn 18 soon and since the age of 11 I have been going to school then coming home and spending the whole time in the computer, even eating all my meals in front if it. I now feel so regretful and annoyed at myself. Any advice? | |||
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What I like in a girl
| Ok so this may be a little crazy (maybe) but honestly, it's just my opinion. Also it's very complicated to attempt to articulate exactly what any man wants in a woman, but here's what i think: I like it when a girl reciprocates and is interested in what I'm talking about. I like it when a girl doesn't have strict rules about things, e.g. 'I'm not gonna sleep with him until the 3rd date', and just sort of goes with the flow. I like it when she has a genuine smile on her face. I love it when she makes eye contact for longer than is necessary every so often. I like it when a girl inadvertently places her hair back. I love shiny cheeks :$ and minimal make-up. I admire a girl that is open and doesn't have anything to hide (it makes me do the same). I like it when a girl is willing to fight for you, as much as you are willing to fight for them. I could go on and on... But i just wanted to say that sometimes it's the small things that can make someone love you, does anyone else (be it male or female) feel the same? | |||
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Age 27: No Sex Drive, Request help
| Hi, I will try to make this short and sweet, as i don't want to make a autobiography novel, as I also tend to be A.D.D when it comes to these discussions. But I do need to be detailed as the correct course of action would still be gray. Thoughts about her: 1) 22: My wife is beautiful, absolutely beautiful. Seriously, she is. Thunder thighs, great body, flat stomach, wonderful sense of humor, her and I are like peas and peas (not peas and carrots) when we are around. Laugh, you know like best friends. (so mental and physically beautiful to me). Previous Relationships are, she said she was devoted, loving and caring. Thoughts about me: 2) 27: I consider myself a very attractive man. Big arms, big chest (not like olympia arms but socially acceptable physique. in fact when I go to shops and things, I always tend to "draw" other women around me. My confidence is up, and tend to be the "alpha" in conversations. Previous relationships for me is...well I deserve a plaque for being the "worlds greatest douche bag." cheated on all my girlfriends except a few, made alot of horrible mistakes. Well, I realized what I have been doing, learning alot about psychology, relationship books, everything... I got better, and now I'm a man that "every woman would want." I am turned around to opening door for her, pulling out her chair, have a solid education, good communication. 'The gentleman' if you will, I love her alot (gettin all teary lol) Past Sex: So now that we know how me and her are, we are like a perfect couple, right? Well, mine and her sex drive is down. I used to be a horn dog, always wanting more and more. Even my ex's said "you seriously have a medical problem". When her and I first met on the first 2 weeks, we were unstoppable, even I was like "whew this is actually beginning to be too much." But I was keeping up with it, because I did not want her to think I'm disinterested to her. I know she has multiple orgasms during a session (hahaha, therapeutic session), the bed shows with discharge hahaha. Trust: Now she used to send text to her ex's all the time. At first I was okay with this, because I talk to my ex's all the time too. So it was mutual, but I could not help but notice she was getting "too welcoming compliments" from her ex's. I confronted her about this and asked to see her phone after I saw secretly. Well she started deleting them in front of me! But anways, that was the past. Since that time, there has been no problems as far as I see. My trust for her is pretty good, but a little "meh" because she is in military away from me. So there is always that "what if?". But its tolerable. Now: Now its to the point where she is nude in front of me, and I'm like "why am i not charging?" I notice in beginning I said keywords, "whew this is actually beginning to be too much." I like and love to be desired. I usually have to initiate the sex, we both can literally go for a month if need be without sex. I find this disturbing. But its like I have flint but no spark. I yearn to be the couple that are deprived of food because we cannot leave the bedroom. But don't know what to do. Taking? Food? I took natural remedy's, yohimbe (fat burner and sexual stimulant) and horny goat weed. Food is basically no junk food.. at all, not even soda. We eat and drink to our health, non soy (soy is a estrogen product) and organic products (as best as any average consumer can muster). I am practically a non certified health nutrionist, helped many people lose weight including my wife (when we first met she weighed 200) now she is 150 but solid muscle. Unusual Habits? Work? Don't really watch porn, but since she is gone, I watch it every now and then, but nothing too much or excessive. Now I know that porn does degrade sexual intimacy in relationships. But my wife is beautiful, even more then the women in the shows, so it does not extinguish my thoughts about her. Work, I'm top in my team, stress is real bad though, work at sprint in cancellations dept. People have a ambulance 1 every 3 months due to people stressing from people screaming wanting a free phone. Stress does decrease sex drive yes. But she also has a low sex drive. and when Im off for 3 days per week, it should go back up right? Bad Habits? I always wondered if me cheating would cause me to be a sex fiend again. But I look for the basic emotions behind that reasoning. Desire and excitement hits me like a brick wall. Now it does turn me on, but remember its those base emotions I look for, not really for the cheating part. Same when a woman imagines a stranger having sex with her. Does not mean she will do it, just the base emotions drive it. She does not deny me (if she does its rare) if I make a advancement and vice versa. Conclusion: Desire and excitement seems to be the culprit in our relationship, its a lack there of. But from two more then willing participants to engage in frivolous physical activity. How can we both be desired by each other but cannot get a good start in it? We try and "get our feet wet" by doing random and 'exciting' encounters. But nothing really grows on us. Help. | |||
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It really isn't you. It IS them!
| If you are new to TAM and CWI, you'll probably have been given some duff advice before arriving here. Well, as someone with experience, please let me tell you... you did not make your partner, wife, husband or lover cheat on you. Oh, you might have helped create a situation where bad things could happen, but that happens to millions of couples. But guess what? Millions of couples do not have problems with infidelity. Only some. Some marriage counsellors will tell you that you are 50% responsible for the cheating of your spouse. This is not true. You might be up to 50% responsible for any problems in your relationship, but the cheater is 100% responsible for the cheating. Don't let anyone try to convince you otherwise! Can infidelity in a marriage be coped with and the marriage saved? Yes. They can be. Not all can, but some can. And remember you are amongst people here who have been where you are.:smthumbup: | |||
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Severe Vaginal Atrophy
| I'm 59 and my wife is 63, we have been very happily married for 32 years. About 5 years ago my wife started suffering from Vaginal Atrophy and was put on creams, pills and the Estring. She was already post-menopause. We still had intercourse but it was quite painful to her. Two years ago, she noticed a lump in her abdomen and had the good sense to go to her doctor right away. A Sonogram showed a 12 cm tumor. She decided to have a complete hysterectomy and it was discovered she had stage 1C Ovarian Cancer, which meant we found it just in time. She still went through 18 weeks of chemotherapy. I am most happy to report that her tests have shown absolutely no presence of cancer and we are SO grateful! Now, the downside to this is her body no longer produces any Estrogen at all and doctors have prohibited her from using or taking any Estrogen for fear of bringing the cancer back. As a result, she has no libido and her Vaginal Atrophy is truly severe. When I try to put some Replens into her using a glove it is very painful and I can only put one finger in and move it only a little bit. It does not look promising at all and we have come to the conclusion that even if she went through a great deal of pain to stretch her big enough for intercourse, it will still be a very painful experience to her. We have talked this over and have adapted our lives to having a life without intercourse. It takes LOT of communication! The most important hurdles are mental (expectations), not physical. If you would like, I will talk more about what we have done. At this point I just wanted to tell everyone that Vaginal Atrophy is for real and in extreme cases this is what can happen. There is nothing we could to have prevented it and again, we are both joyful she has survived her cancer and that is the most important thing. | |||
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Short story thread.
| If anyones interested in joining ... You can use pics too if ya want and it can be about anything! Posted via Mobile Device | |||
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Thanking wife for sex???
| Quick summary. No more Mr. Nice guy, read the e-book. No sex from wife for about 2 weeks so I left her alone. After I got home from work yesterday, napping on the couch, she grabs a pillow and looks at me. I asked her, want to cuddle or no? She says "YES" to cuddling, so on top of me she went. 5 minutes later, hand down my pants but fell asleep AGAIN during foreplay with my penis in her hand!!!. Wakes up, about 15 minutes later, BJ. Pretty good BJ actually. Then we cuddle for an hour or so. I get up, she looks at me and says, what do you say? I am thinking, I have to say thank you for sex now? I told her, I'm not asking, begging or saying please and thank you for sex!!! I also told her sex once every 2 weeks is unacceptable and that's not up for debate!!! No comment. Then she starts pushing my leg with her foot. Want to get me some KFC? I tell her, I'm making some organic chicken fingers. She wanted junk food. I told her, you had the day off, why couldn't you walk 15 minutes and buy KFC for the two of us? No comment. Then she made herself a healthy meal. Organic omlet with english muffins, quite yummy and it only took her 10 minutes to make it. She doesn't need food like KFC when she is big and needs to lose a lot of weight. After that, I was watching some tv and she comes back, and says, I want to watch UnderCover Boss and lifts her leg and farts. I left the room and went upstairs on the computer for the night. I know its her time of the month, but is this acceptable? Let it all slide because time of the month? | |||
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