Does it sound like they're back together?

Hey TSR. I'm looking for some advice regarding a girl. I was close friends with this girl last year, and we both developed feelings for each other. We had a bit of a 'thing', but her best friend got involved, and we kind of ended it. Due to this, me and her fell out horrendously, and no matter how much I tried to work things out, she didn't want any of it, so for the past four months we've had no contact - apart from last month where I attempted talking to her but she was callous with me so I've left it since. After me and her fell out, she then went on a string of dates, started seeing a friend of hers, and then entered into a new relationship with another close friend of hers. A good friend of mine, who's also close with this girl, told me that she had told him her and her most recent boyfriend had split up. I was waiting for her to come back to university before I attempted to try and start talking to her again. It made sense as I'm from the Midlands and she's from down South - so a bit of a distance, and neither of us drive, and I didn't want to do it via text/phone call etc. Since we were still friends on Facebook, my news feed shows her statuses etc. - if it turns out they're back together I'm going to block her, as I don't want to be wasting my time on her anymore, nor seeing her updates. I'm not actively looking at her profile, but I notice the occasional stuff. When her and her boyfriend were 'getting together', and were an item, he was liking anything and everything she posted to Facebook. After they had 'split up', he was still liking anything and everything she would do. He'd comment on her stuff, but she wouldn't often reply back to his comments. These included him calling her cute when she posted pics of herself as a kid, and he'd like all her other pictures she posted etc. She even said about being single and how she's clearly making mistakes to end up being alone, to which he replied saying she was a fine girlfriend. They went to Reading festival separately with their own group of friends, and when pictures have been uploaded, they weren't together - obviously I wasn't there so don't know if that's the case, but going on from what I've seen they weren't together. A day after Reading, he wrote on her wall saying he was sending her something in the post, and that same day he posted a picture of a DVD - Mama Mia - he had just bought, and she commented saying that her mother will be proud of his purchase, with a winky face. Now, to me that doesn't sound like a an ex boyfriend and girlfriend at all? I don't want to ask her outright, as last time we spoke properly, things were sour, and if she's back with her boyfriend, it's not my place to be talking to her, really. So what do you think? Back together, him attempting to get back with her, or they never split up in the first place? If she is back with him/still with him, then that's me done, not wasting anymore time on her. tl;dr: Girl says she's split up with boyfriend, yet 'ex' still likes and comments on everything on Facebook. Announces he's sending her a present and she seems flirty with him. Back together, or just friends?

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Wife's a Repeat Cheater!

I am 49 and my wife is 45. She's been in an major affair with 3 guys at the same time. Primarily texts (but real raunchy stuff with lovers number 2 & 3) but pure sex with lover number 1. The primary (lover) culprit is a 2 bit actor who has been bedding her for the past 10 years. I discovered the affairs accidently and have been going through an emotional hell. When confronted the first time, she apologised & cried BUT 3 months later I found she was still in touch with the 2-bit actor. Again, when confronted, she sweared off him and promised that she would BREAK contact with the guy. I think like a fool I believed her the second time. However, I again noticed a couple of days ago that she had another cell phone bought secretly with a new cell number which she was using to call her lover. I am at my wits end honestly. And an *emotional wreck* by now. I have not been able to sleep for an hour at a time and this is taking a toll on my health and sanity. I tried resorting to alcohol but this is affecting my work. I suspect she is not concerned though she portrays that she does. She is quick to apologies but turns true to type (going by my past experience). I have been a very faithful husband who has been very very suppportive of her nature, likes, dislikes, her family and a **** lot more. Any suggestions????????? I have been tolerating all this coz of my two kids who are in their teens. Will then understand if I tell them that I need to move on to Maintain My Sanity? Sometimes I feel like killing myself OR the two culprits who have messed up my life. Please help..........

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Condoms!

Anyone ever have problems with condoms and staying erect while putting one on or after putting one on not being able to have sex? Have been hanging out with this woman for a while and yesterday she was going to stay the night after an afternoon adventure. We flirted and teased all day and things were going well. She then decided that she wasn't going to spend the night as she wasn't ready for that step yet. I said I totally understood and just wanted her to be comfortable. So we went down to get her bag and one thing led to another and we ended up in bed. Everything was great and she said she wanted to have sex and I was ready as well. That's where the problem started, went from very ready to not being able to penetrate. She was so embarrassed and thought it was her. I reassured her it was definitely not her as she had me ready to go. I told her it had been a while since I had last had sex and even longer since a condom was needed because I was i n a committed relationship and didn't need to use them. She said she understood and I helped her to her car as she was not ready to spend the night, especially after that. We kissed a little and she left. I honestly have never had a problem sexually before. Is this a mindset I need to get through or an issue with condoms. I go in for a vasectomy in a week and a half but will need to use them until the all clear or wait until the all clear to have sex. My bigger concern is did I blow it with this woman. On one hand I feel if she really likes me this is something that happens and we will get through it and all will be well. If it is a big problem then she wasn't meant to be for me. Posted via Mobile Device

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Girls: What do you think of circumcised lads?

I've just had to be circumcised for medical reasons, and I've been wondering what girls think of men who are circumcised? Does it put you off, are you indifferent to it, or do you prefer it?

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Should you ever meet up with an ex ?

Im very confused at the moment, my ex has recently contacted me asking to meet me. My initial action was no. This guy treated me horribly he cheated on me with god knows how many girls, but instead of having the balls to tell me he let me walk in on them while he was having sex with his flatmate and find out that way. I think what hurt the most was how he acted when I did walk in the girl said 'god she isisnt anywhere as good as me' then told me I clearly couldn't please him ( I wasn't ready to loose my virginity to him so I was still a virgin) and said I was ugly and he just lauged. I was head over heels for this guy and ive never been so heartbroken in my life, he made no secret of his conquests he mucked me about so much telling me he'd get back with me and id get my hopes up then tell me I wasn't as good as the girl he was seeing that I was frigid, he use to try sex text me but start by being sweet and nice so I would respond then try me to say some vile things. So of course I blanked him. However he contriuned to text me which I ignored. Recently one of his female best friends (only know this through mutual friends) came up to me when id never met her saying I ruined it between him and her (because they were sleeping together and said he only wanted fun not a girlfriend after me. He's text me again asking to meet up and part of me wants to go not because I love him or want anything I despise him but to show him that ive moved on that im stronger. Last time he saw me I was a wreck id been crying for weeks I hadn't eaten and looked a bag of bones I didn't care about my appearance of anything. Now im much happier and healthier I have a boyfriend of over a year who is amazing and I love to bits, im studying a law degree and life is just perfect. I don't know if its worth going to have the last laugh or just to leave it. However his female best friend has alaso worked out who my boyfriend is and now everytime my boyfriend goes out is intent on trying to get him to cheat on me. I knoqw my current boyfriend wont at all but I feel like my ex ruined my life before and this girl is trying to do it again I want to just show them both im better than them now im not a pushover like I was when they were both cheating on me behind my back what do I do ?

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Cheating is inevitable and unstoppable as a young adult

my friend is in love and cheated yesterday with a girl. so if you're reading this, your gf/bf is out cheating and flirting and acting single. you know vry well what i'm talking about. i've come to realize everybody is a cheat. it's in us. once we get one we want more. i was thinking about this as i've always thoguht 'i never cheat if i loved a girl, i couldn't do that'. but now i realize that i can't help it and that in a moment when i'm out surrounded by girls all that leaves my brain and i love talking to girls. it also makes me sad as if i have a gf when i get one i know she'll be cheating with other boys :(. i have so many male friends who all cheat. even 1 in particular who would never go that far flirts and trys to get girls to our table and acts single-ish. we are doomed dogs.

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Was kissing girl in nightclub then Friend try's to sneak off with her? Mugging me of?

do i have a right to be so furious. who he think he is like. i was kissing this girl and he was with her friend. then we bumped into 1 of them (the one i kissed) they were talking i turned around then he tried sneaking off with her but i saw him leading her off dirty scumbag. he was touchin her ass so i stepped in like hey i kissed her first what you think you're doing trying to mug me off. do i have a right to be angry? i felt uncomforable and weird cause i quite liked her for the short 30-40 minutes i spent with her before the 2 girls left.

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She says she is done with it

So me and my ex have broke up after a 5 year relation, since 5 months now. she broke up with me when I was half a year in a foreign country due to work. The first month after the brake up I did al the stuff that where against the rules such as begging etc etc. After one month I started NC and 2 months later I came back for 2 weeks. We met and she said that she wanted me back.. one week later she suddently changed here mind and said she didnt want anything... for now. A month later now... she says she dont want nothing anymore and that she is done with it.. Note that I still really love her, miss her and dont want to let here go because I now that she is the one for me. I am still having a hard time after 5 months to get over her. The funny thing is that she told me that she tought It would be to soon for me to have a new girlfriend. She doesnt want to be my friend on facebook because she dont want to see all the girls I hang out with. She says that she is still there for me but that she it done with the relationship. I am still confused. What do you guys think that I should to? Just let her go and cutt of all contact? I really want her in my life.. I have had 5 months to think about it and I am certain about it. And I know that somewhere she still loves me to. Note that I have changed but she doesnt give me a chance to show this to here. Please react! Thnx

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Lesbian Afffair? Emotional Affair? What Should I Do?

Hi, I'm hoping to get some advice as I don't feel I can speak to anyone I know about this. I have been with my gf for 8+ years, we have a 3 year old together. I've thought for a long time that our relationship wasn't perfect, but we rarely fight and are nice to each other, maybe just lacking some affection? I don't know how relevant this is, but 1 month ago, we lost a pregnancy quite early on (5 weeks), this has been difficult for my gf, but shes seems OK. going back a bit now, 4 months ago, a girl started at her work, she is a lesbian and was in her own relationship. My gf told me bits about her, no more than anyone else she's talked about. I had no concerns or suspicions. I then started to notice that she was texting loads, I wasn't certain to whom, but I'm not normally the jealous type so I didn't mention it. That increased following the miscarriage, but again, I thought if shes talking thing through with friends, that's probably good. To get to the point, we went for a meal with my family, I innocently asked to borrow her phone as I had no signal and she got it out. she had a msg, so she read it and passed me the phone. however the msg was still on the screen, at a glance I read a msg from earlier that day (from my gf) that read something like 'I'll save the new bra for our date. x x x' I wanted to puke. I felt so ill like every drop of blood had left my body. Naturally I couldn't act normally so I said I was feeling really ill and needed air, my mum said I looked terrible and to get home, so my gf and I left. When we got back I confronted her. she played it down for an hour saying it was a jokey msg and I didn't know the context etc. after 2 hours she admitted it was flirty and that she like the attention from this other girl. I asked her if she was falling for her and she said she didn't know but promised nothing physical had happened. I think I believe that part. She promised that she hadn't deleted any msgs and let me read them, there were sooo many. Nothing outright sexual, but lots of 'you're beautiful' etc after about another hour I asked if she wanted to stay with me or be with her, she said she didn't know, I said I'd give her some space an went upstairs. Something uncontrollable made me go straight back down and I found she was texting this other woman. The msg explained I'd seen the msgs and that I'd accused her of an affair. there was a text straight back but I never got to see it before it was deleted. So I freaked out, I said that normally when people get caught they either say 'i'm so sorry, I was stupid and I'll fix it' or I want to break up. she just kept saying she didn't know. the next day, she woke up and came down (I stayed on the sofa). she said she couldn't believe what she's said and was sorry. she said she loves me and doesn't want anyone else. its 2 days later, I'm a wreck. I cant stand up without feeling sick and I can't get this out of my head. She said shes going to tell this person she cant see her anymore, but they work together. surely those feelings can't just go away? and working alongside her will just re-ignite them? I told her it's OK if she's gay, i said that I'd support her if thats how she felt but she says shes 100% straight and it was just the attention and that her hormones were all over the place etc. Please tell me if I'm being taken for a ride? This is not normal is it? Please can someone give me some advice. I now feel that it's worse she had to think whether she wanted me or someone she was flirting with. Is she saying she wants to be with me while she figures out if theres something with the other person? oh should I give her time? its driving me crazy. I also feel that its worse she was so emotionally attached without a physical relationship? Is that crazy to think? She also said that it wasn't the person, that it was the attention she liked. Does that mean if someone else shows her attention, the same thing will happen? Male or female? Basically anyone in the world but me? I know how pathetic this sounds, but that's how it feels. P.S. For the record she said today that I'd been super supportive throughout the miscarriage and that it wasn't my lack of support that caused this

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EX Girlfriend

My husband of 15 years has told me he is not in love with me anymore but loves and cares about me and that he has met up with his ex girlfriend of 18 years ago and they have feelings for each other, she dumped him after 3 years (they never lived together) as he was depressed and she was to young to cope she is separated her husband had a affair and she 2 young children we don't have any, he spends Friday to Monday with her and then comes back to "our" home so it is easy for him to go to work, I have started the divorce which he was shocked about as he said can't we just separate and divorce in a few years time. At the age of 47 he is taking about buying her a house transferring his job etc but is saying to me you can go out during the week to meet friends but he won't stay at home at the weekends for our little dog that he wanted. He is totally in love with himself which is so unlike him going to the gym buying new clothes and facebook and her seem to be his new best friends He talks about buying a new bed for himself as he is in the spare room and selling the house next year, I can't /won't hang around what is going on in his head it has only been 4 weeks and he is changing his life as well as mine Sorry for the rant any advise would be really welcome

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Hubby had sexual issues he didn't tell me about until after we married....

Let me start with my hubby and I met in the US while he was on vacation . We started off as friends but after I visited him we became more and maintained a long distance relationship for a year and a half until he moved here. During that long distance time we spoke everyday if not twice a day and the only thing I asked him to do was to be open and honest no matter what because I had been married before and my ex had lied and just wasn't good for me(no need to smear him that's why he is an ex). I was completely honest about my past and what I want for my future including my sexual expectations (I wanted to have fun). We got married about 9 months after he moved here. We have been married for almost 5 yrs now. So now this is the behind the scenes story, there was always something odd when we would have sex; it just always seemed disconnected from the person I would talk to on the phone (if that makes sense) what I mean is the man I talk to on the phone who seemed very sexual was not the man I would get when we were in bed. Very missionary and after his supposed orgasm he would still be completely hard ,which I asked about but never got a real answer . Also after the supposed orgasm,there didn't seem to be any trace of it (if you know what I mean) and my hubby always had an excuse. One I decided I was going to used my skills and do everything to him ,but couldn't get any result. Hubby finally explained he is anorgasmic with intercourse and he had been faking it all along:'( he stated that he has been like this since he started having sex then he threw down that he only gets excited by feet and the only way he can orgasm is by masturbating while my feet are on his face or above his face. Needless to say I was stunned ...HE LIED.. And had lied all along , and now I was married to him and either I excepted it or I would have to go through another divorce.....uuuggggh(I didn't like it the first time) I figure we can wo rk on this we could figure it out together ...well 4years later and we are now down to having sex randomly maybe once a month and sometimes that only consists of me rubbing my feet on his face while he masturbates, his form of sexting or talking dirty or pillow talk is him telling me or me telling him what he wants to do to my feet or should do to my feet. I have tried to get in to this but it just isn't my thing. I even tried to explain to him what I need and he says he just cant get into it. I don't even try anymore because of the constant rejection over the past four years. I slowly gave up. I don't even know what to ask him to do to help me orgasm because I know it does nothing for him so I can't get into it. Well here is the dilemma I am in... I have tried to be accepting and understanding but I NEED sex , I need a man to orgasm while I have sex with him because it is satisfying and a major turn on for me to know that I pleased him and that he enjoyed it as much as I did . Well just recently I have been receiving a lot of advances from a particular person and I have never let me repeat NEVER even considered cheating in my life but I am actually starting to consider it.... :'( Has anyone ever gone through this and figured out a balance? Is there hope for my hubby and I ? How do you get your head back in the game when it feels hopeless ? Any advise? Posted via Mobile Device

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My partners exW is a *****

ugh, just have to get this out here because clearly I can't say it IRL. I love Mr H, he loves me, we are blissfully happy. My ex and I are very amicable, co parent very well and put our children first. I have no previous experience with mental health issues, Mr H's ex has mental health issues. She manipulates their kids and the end result is that he has very limited time with them. This is the part of "life after divorce" that I find very confronting. I got divorced, got my act together, getting on with my life. This ***** will always be there causing grief for those around her. I am very good at emotionally supporting my partner and have never said anything derogatory about his ex to him and I do my best to give him all the support he needs. Just needed to get it out that I find her behaviour revolting and very confronting.

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Had a one night stand, how do I tell my husband?

Well hi everyone. I browsed this website for a good few hours and just decided to register to get some help. Anyways, I'm not sure where to begin. Last week I had a One night stand. I had went out to a house party my younger sister was hosting. My intention was to watch over her to prevent her from doing anything stupid. ( I guess I'm the idiot considering I was the one that ended up doing something stupid ) At some point during the party I ended up cheating. Yes I did have a drink but it had no affect on what I was doing. I was as sober as ever. I won't make any excuses. I just gave in to temptation. I personally just feel terribly guilty about it. I've been struggling to suppress those feelings for the past couple days to avoid having my husband see it. I just need some help. I know it will crush him no matter how I tell him but may I have some advice on how to approach it? Also, some things to avoid?:(

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Would you be friends with your family if they weren't your family?

If you were born in another life, do you think you'd have still been friends with say siblings or parents if they weren't family members? Posted from TSR Mobile

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Brother going cold

I was debating sharing this with everyone, but I am still struggling to wrap my mind around it. Anyways, got a family problem here and my main question for you all as I share this is what sort of position, action, or mindset should I stride for in response to this quick turn of events. My brother is in his late 20s and has been married for 4 or so years to a woman he had been dating for 5-6 years prior. They have a 2 year old son and she is pregnant with a daughter due this fall. About a month ago, my brother decided he wanted out of the marriage because he wasn't happy, and they are currently not living together. The bitter details are in regards to his perspective on all of this. He has been almost entirely absent emotion. Not crying, depressed, etc. He does not want to play any major role in the child's lives now, and since his son has been with the wife since this all started, he said he has been extremely happy that they are not around. I bet he could move across the country right now and never miss anyone. He has no friends and rarely meets people he cares for yet views himself as a near perfect being. He doesn't view social relationships as 'connecting' with people but just as 'interactions'. However, I don't want to paint him as a devil, he shows signs of guilt and remorse. Whether its due to believing people expect him to feel that way or because he truly does is unknown. My closing statements is I have been largely in the background for all of this. I haven't really talked to him at all, and I haven't "picked" a side. I do feel sympathy for the child as his innocence does not deserve this. I certainly don't hate my brother, and really blame both of them for this. She excused much of his lack of involvement in the relationship when it was so blatantly obvious to us he was never fully involved in his marriage. She was truly blinded by love. I suppose all of this is a good first look, I can share more if requested.

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