Here's my story. I'm 26yrs old and so is my wife. We met throu mutual friends. I met her 2 yrs ago and I fell in love. I had never met someone who I wanted to do so much for, I had crappy jobs in the past but I finally had a good job before I met her to finally look into starting my life and move out of my parents house. Before I met her I was already paying debts and planning towards buying a home. We met, things started out a bit fast but we ended up going out, we both enjoyed our company and we were in love. She still lived at her parents house, she brought the idea of wanting a family and living together within a few months. I never had anyone tell me that or motivate me towards that so I took on a 2nd job to speed the financial things up. I had 2 jobs and went to college, I'm an automotive technician so I'd do side jobs also on the weekend on top of everything else. Time passed i was always working but I stopped by her house to see her everyday, took her out when I could and she said she understood my sacrifices for us, I got a storage unit. Started buying furniture little by little for when we'd move in together. Took a lot of effort on my part as I thought everything was going good, she blew up on me one night that I was all talk, wasn't getting anywhere, I been buying a house for the longest. That made me feel so bad, that only made me work harder. We ended up settling for an apt to test the waters on our own. 5 days before moving in I went to Zales and bought her a ring. I barely had time to do so and stopped by after class, I proposed and got turned down. She's always thought she's a princess, she said she wanted a custom ring not one anyone can have, that she didn't expect me to propose at her parents house, the proposal wasn't cute or planned and that I ruined it and wouldn't be the same if I ever tried again. We bumped heads often cause she was such a control freak, compared me to her ex. I slowly figured out s he had a lot of growing up to do. So we live together, I had to do all the calls for cable, electricity, etc while working a lot cause she had no time but she had time for Facebook. I'd tell her and she'd say your not my dad, wouldn't cook I did most of the cooking. Even got mad cause I'd bring food from my mom and said to stop, said my mom thinks she don't feed me when she really doesn't, I have 5 uniforms, wouldn't wash em sometimes. She didn't want to take on responsibilities. Forward to this valentine's day we found out we were expecting. She had no insurance so we got married through court to add her on my insurance. She said she wanted to marry me with a wedding later but for now for our baby. We still bumped heads, she's compared me t her ex, still was ungrateful to me, talked down on me and verbally abused lost it, cursed her out and said things but I did not touch her. So she left since April 2nd to her parents house. Says I'm psycho, I need help, and that she woul dn't come back unless I seeked help and talked to her dad. At 1st I didn't want to do any because I know me and I'm not crazy, I didn't marry her dad, I didn't hit her so our problems are not her dad's concern. I ended up making an appointment to a psychologist and talked to her parents. She's very demanding, bossy and controlling. Said if in 2 months she saw improvement she'd come back. Dr said I have no issues other than holding things in and blowing up, her parents want us to work out and now suddenly she cahnged like a light switch. Wants a divorce, nothing to do with me, now she says she was never deeply in love with me, the 1 thing we had in common was wanting a family nothing else, our marriage was never supposed to happen, the whole 2yr relationship has been hell and she stayed cause she thought a baby would change things. I wasn't perfect either but nothing bad to where I'd give her reasons to act this way,.I haven't seen her in a month, I check up on her about the pregnancy. I've tried all I could but she wants to hear nothing regarding us. Says she doesn't want or need anything from me not even child support just to be a dad to the baby. Says she's been out of it for a while and doesn't want back in. I don't know what else to do, I feel I've done all I could. If it was hell the whole time why stay and want a baby with a so called monster? It's heartbreaking as I've always loved kids and always said I would never put my child through a divorce. Any advice
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