Hello Everyone,
Hey Everyone! In case you haven't seen my posts before, my marriage is in a rough spot right now. Here is another section of difficulty we've been dealing with.
Budget and finances, YAY!
So some basic stuff.
My wife makes slightly more than I do per year, but I've been catching up due to working overtime/earning commission. We'll say we're about even, but she might make slightly more or works less hours.
Earlier this year, I decided I wanted to pay off at least one of my student loans this year, or get as close as possible to paying it off. I shared this my wife and her comment varies between "It's your loan, your responsibility" and "Your money do with it what you want". I tried to plan a budget with my wife, but she didn't seem interested. I planned one myself and attempted to persuade my wife to take on a slightly larger % of bills (like 60/40 maybe) so I could pour as much spare money into eliminating my debt.
For the most part, she didn't seem interested in following my budget and a few times, she mentioned just splitting our finances.
Last night, she apparently had the last straw. Last night she said she was sick of the following;
-asking why she spent $x on lunch (double her normal amount)
- telling her that her alcoholic purchases are adding to the grocery bill
-telling her I paid most of our expenses X month (which has been true for a few months, but I believe I said this in response to her telling me I hadn't paid anything for utility bills one month, which wasn't true)
-trying to limit our spending when eating out every month
She wants to spend her hard-earned money on whatever she likes, especially when it comes to eating out/food without any feeling of guilt of spending too much.
I'm not sure if this is going to hurt our marriage, but here's what she decided.
-She's stopped her monthly contribution to me paying off my Rav4
-Everything is split evenly as far as bills are concerned. She opened a new checking account. We DD money into our joint account for Bills only.
Hey Everyone! In case you haven't seen my posts before, my marriage is in a rough spot right now. Here is another section of difficulty we've been dealing with.
Budget and finances, YAY!
So some basic stuff.
My wife makes slightly more than I do per year, but I've been catching up due to working overtime/earning commission. We'll say we're about even, but she might make slightly more or works less hours.
Earlier this year, I decided I wanted to pay off at least one of my student loans this year, or get as close as possible to paying it off. I shared this my wife and her comment varies between "It's your loan, your responsibility" and "Your money do with it what you want". I tried to plan a budget with my wife, but she didn't seem interested. I planned one myself and attempted to persuade my wife to take on a slightly larger % of bills (like 60/40 maybe) so I could pour as much spare money into eliminating my debt.
For the most part, she didn't seem interested in following my budget and a few times, she mentioned just splitting our finances.
Last night, she apparently had the last straw. Last night she said she was sick of the following;
-asking why she spent $x on lunch (double her normal amount)
- telling her that her alcoholic purchases are adding to the grocery bill
-telling her I paid most of our expenses X month (which has been true for a few months, but I believe I said this in response to her telling me I hadn't paid anything for utility bills one month, which wasn't true)
-trying to limit our spending when eating out every month
She wants to spend her hard-earned money on whatever she likes, especially when it comes to eating out/food without any feeling of guilt of spending too much.
I'm not sure if this is going to hurt our marriage, but here's what she decided.
-She's stopped her monthly contribution to me paying off my Rav4
-Everything is split evenly as far as bills are concerned. She opened a new checking account. We DD money into our joint account for Bills only.
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