My husband and I have been happily married for 12 years and have 2 young children, our main marriage issue over the years being H and my family of origin not getting along (both sides at fault). H has never given me reason to believe he would cheat. However, one evening we were drinking with my brother and his wife (my sister-in-law). Neither me nor H are big drinkers (usually 2 drinks tops), but on this rare occasion I drank to much and passed out. My brother went to bed and H and SIL stayed up drinking by themselves (H has never stayed up with a woman before). Two days later my brother was being downright mean to H, and that night H confessed that SIL hit on him after I passed out. He said that she took her sweatshirt off and grabbed his crotch and said "we could do it in the mud room". Her baby cried and she left to tend to baby. He bolted for the guest room I was sleeping in and came to bed. A few minutes later she came into our room, again grabbed h is crotch as he was laying in bed and said "come on". He told her to get out and then heard her yelling at my brother. My husbands story was just so unbelievable (who would grab a man's crotch if he was laying in bed with his wife?). I then got my SIL side of the story. She said that she was hot and took off her sweatshirt, wearing a tight tank top on underneath. H grabbed her boob, saying it was "luscious" (he has used this word with me once or twice, she would not know this). Then she waited a minute b/c she wanted to see what he was going to do next. He took her hand and put it on his crotch and said "we can do it right now". Baby cried, she checked on baby, came back and he was gone. She looked around the house for him, and found him in bed with me. She went to her room, woke my brother and told him everything. I never in a million years thought either one of them would be capable of something like this. My brother told my parents, and of course my parents and brother be lieve her and they all told me they would never be around my H again and that he is a liar and he is evil. I do know for a fact that SIL cheated on my brother once, maybe 10 years ago, when my brother passed out at a party and she ended up making out with one of his friends. H and I have been going to intensive marital counseling. Our therapist had H take a lie detector test which he passed and therapist told me that they are 95% accurate and I can't doubt H. My dad came to our home recently (even though I begged him not to) to apologize and open the door to healing in our family. H was so mad at him for taking sides and coming over against my wishes that he just blasted off on him. If I stay with H, I loose my family of origin, which hurts so much b/c I love them. Yet, how can I destroy my own family and my children's lives (they adore H and he is a great dad) based on one he-said/she-said incident and the fact that my fam dislikes H? What would you do?
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