Me and this guy went had a first date a few months ago, went well and had 2nd date arranged until we had to cancel (to which he acted disappointed). A month of him sending mixed messages followed (me suggesting we rearrange date, him giving uninterested indefinite replies like "maybe/we'll see/suppose so" but then seemed all keen/texted asking about 2nd date when he was drunk." This was a vicious cycle until I got fed up and contact fizzled. After a month of no contact, he drunk texted me, asking how I was. I replied but conversation fizzled until he drunk texted again a couple of weeks later. Again, contact fizzled by the following day, despite me making an effort to keep the conversation going. Then after a couple weeks, got text from him a week ago. Usual small talk, then he said that he missed our daily texting (like how it used to be) and wanted for it to be like that again. He then asked if I'd be interested in another date. This wasn't a drunk text, it was during the day when he was sober/not on a night out, so I agreed. He said the choice of day was my decision so I suggested the end of next week, once we both are finished with uni work. He agreed, saying as long as he has money and I told him to let me know. To make an effort to keep our contact regular, I texted him the following day (Monday of this week) but as he was busy with a uni assignment, we exchanged a few messages then I left him to it. However, we've had no contact since. I know we've been busy but when he says he wants us to resume regular contact, I would've thought he'd make some form of effort (even a simple, "how's your weekend been?" text would've been sufficient).
I'm not the most experienced person in the whole dating game, but is this common behaviour/way to act ??
I really do like him and feel like I have made an effort but I refuse to chase him. I didn't expect daily contact, but some form of text this week would've been nice as opposed to nothing so kind of feel like I'm being played. I'll obviously wait to see if he contacts me about next weekend but if he doesn't, then what do I do IF he texts again (in a few weeks)? I feel like I couldn't completely ignore him, but in this situation, should I express that i'm fed up of mixed messages/going round in circles and nothing coming of our date suggestions?
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