So, the day that I have been dreading is coming tomorrow. I have to be face to face with the OW#2. This woman, if you haven't read my story, is not the one that my EX cheated on me with while we were married. This was option #2 if I didn't forgive him for the first affair with OW#1 on his time table. And when I didn't, he went to her, literally the day that he told me it was over and that he was leaving. He drove to her house and that was that ... he has been with her ever since then.
She has been a friend of his families for many years and so I know that she has been told all sorts of lies about me. I also know that she knew that we were trying to reconcile my marriage and she pushed him to leave me and be with her. She has a really messed up past and was already the OW in another marriage and ended things with that man once he was divorced. There is nothing good that I have ever heard of her and I don't like her b/c of her past and now b/c she is in my kids lives so much.
She has been living with my EX (and my kids when they are there ) for a few months now but I think that she is getting ready to move back to her home (that is 2.5 hours away) to go back to work. Her home is also right next door to my ex-inlaws house ... nice, huh?
Anyways, my daughter has a school function tomorrow and of course her father and I are both going. For those that know about my EX, he is very manipulative and in private, is verbally abusive to me. In public, you would think he was the nices EX-husband there ever was. But now he has invited her to go and my daughter wanted her to go as well. My daughter told me tonight that I shouldn't go b/c I will yell and fight this OW. She probably got that idea from her dad b/c I have never lead her to think that.
How to do I act? Do I go up to her and offer my hand and say "it is nice to see you again, I am "daughter's name" mom. Should I wait until they approach me? Do I avoid them all together. I have zero respect for this lady and I would love nothing more than to tell her what a slimeball she is for being with another married man and coming inbetween a reconciliation of a family but then that would cause her to think that all the lies she has been told have been correct. If I offer my hand and she doesn't take it, what would I do? I am scared and I am nervous and I don't want to go but I can't do that to my daughter. I can't really get away with avoiding her b/c my EX will be where my daughter is and so will I. I know that she is probably more nervous than I will be b/c she knows what she has done but still ... I need help and advice please. I don't know how to handle this??
She has been a friend of his families for many years and so I know that she has been told all sorts of lies about me. I also know that she knew that we were trying to reconcile my marriage and she pushed him to leave me and be with her. She has a really messed up past and was already the OW in another marriage and ended things with that man once he was divorced. There is nothing good that I have ever heard of her and I don't like her b/c of her past and now b/c she is in my kids lives so much.
She has been living with my EX (and my kids when they are there ) for a few months now but I think that she is getting ready to move back to her home (that is 2.5 hours away) to go back to work. Her home is also right next door to my ex-inlaws house ... nice, huh?
Anyways, my daughter has a school function tomorrow and of course her father and I are both going. For those that know about my EX, he is very manipulative and in private, is verbally abusive to me. In public, you would think he was the nices EX-husband there ever was. But now he has invited her to go and my daughter wanted her to go as well. My daughter told me tonight that I shouldn't go b/c I will yell and fight this OW. She probably got that idea from her dad b/c I have never lead her to think that.
How to do I act? Do I go up to her and offer my hand and say "it is nice to see you again, I am "daughter's name" mom. Should I wait until they approach me? Do I avoid them all together. I have zero respect for this lady and I would love nothing more than to tell her what a slimeball she is for being with another married man and coming inbetween a reconciliation of a family but then that would cause her to think that all the lies she has been told have been correct. If I offer my hand and she doesn't take it, what would I do? I am scared and I am nervous and I don't want to go but I can't do that to my daughter. I can't really get away with avoiding her b/c my EX will be where my daughter is and so will I. I know that she is probably more nervous than I will be b/c she knows what she has done but still ... I need help and advice please. I don't know how to handle this??
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