I'm looking for some opinions on this as I've somewhat come to a roadblock and feel a bit lost as to how to deal with her.
Of late my girlfriend who I had been with for quite a long time has been behaving rather strangely. Some of the details will be a bit graphic so be warned.
For now breaking up isn't really an option as it will be a bit of a mess to sort out the immigration paperwork.
These are some of the things she been doing that she never did before :-
1) I have problems falling asleep and usually once awakened from sleep I generally can't sleep again, usually right around 2 or 3 in the morning she will wake me up saying she is horny and can't sleep, therefore it is either sex or oral. She will be persistent until she gets it and for the most part won't take no for an answer.
2) Sex is now always her on top positions, where previously she rarely wanted to be the one on top, otherwise it would be a position where she is pinning me against something.
3) During sex she always pins my hands down to the bed and sometimes uses her whole bodyweight on me, she is quite a bit bigger and heavier than me. Usually if I ask her to not be so rough she simply starts asking if I suddenly don't feel all that powerful. A few times she simply places her hand on my mouth and tells me to shut up if I say anything.
She is only that way once in the bedroom, when in public she is the way she always had been though some things has changed a lot about her :-
1) Usually if I tell her I'd like to buy something new like recently I told her I'd like to move to a new flat that is nicer and bigger, it was also the very one that she said she would like to have some years back but we just couldn't afford it on our tighter budget, now just because I asked about it she said no.
2) I told her I'd like to have a new car and maybe we could upgrade the one, I did tell her we could afford that BMW I always wanted, she screamed at me saying I probably wanted it so could go out with another girl. I told her fine let's not have a new car, in actual fact she uses the car a lot more than me as I take the train to work and usually only drive the car with her in it.
3) Each time she wants to do something then it must be done. While it is mostly enjoyable the process leading to it generally gets ruined by her insistence that is what we must do.
Wondering if some recent changes might be causing her to be that way and how to help her with this.
Some recent changes :-
1) I took up a new job, it pays significantly more than the job she does, she was also hoping to get into the same company but she didn't make it to the interview stage and instead went to work for one local council.
2) I been losing a lot of weight over the last year and recently it has got to the point where I look quite a bit different.
3) Been getting a lot of female attention of late including some from her own friends who previously never liked me, some are from work as well as from other social circles.
4) She has put on a fair bit more weight, she took a job that requires a 90 minute commute. She stopped going to gym as she said she had no time for it and felt too tired after work. She is feeling some stress from the job thus each time she comes home it is dinner and then it is the usual bag of Doritos, bar of Cadburys and tub of Ben & Jerrys while she lounges in front of the tv. No idea what is so stressful about her job as to me it is one of the easiest I've ever encountered.
Can anything be done?
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