Dear all,
I'm here to ask for help with my emotional instability. God bless you for reading.
My bf and I have been dating for 1.5 years, and both in unversity. We live in 2 countries separated by a distance requiring flight. We meet normally every 5 months; sometimes 3 months. Last time I saw him was the start of the year.
The problem is I have been very depressed since he left. I miss him all day and feel tired or miserable. When it gets serious, I cry every day for consecutive days. It drains my energy and concentration from my stressful work as I study a tough subject and need to compete a lot for finding work. I don't have many close friends and don't go to bars etc so I'm not the type of "fun" person - most of my friends are just friends, hard to have a deep "soulful connection" with. Meanwhile, he is happy and all fine with his work and stuff; he'd love to see me again but it's not like he misses me so badly. He has no problem focusing on his work and I sometimes feel even more miserable precisely because of this fact - that I am the overly emotionally dependent one.
It's my first relationship and his second.
To clarify, replacing or distracting myself from him by new hobbies works only temporarily so I'm looking for a ROOT solution to being emotionally attached. Is there no way but to break up with him? You can be sure I love him a lot but it's really making me depressed.
PLEASE I'd love to hear from you about how to deal with this. My bf is like "you have to pull urself tgt" and "you're sticky" and "you're the only one who can deal with it", which I already know. Not constructive because it restates the problem. I'm by nature a very emotional person and finds it hard to get more independent emotionally.
Never been to counselling and I've no idea whether my crying every day and stuff is a sort of depression but I'm sure I'm feeling quite horrible and it affects my spiritual health A LOT.
Thank you in advance <3
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