Ok, I have read numerous posts about infidelity where WS, probably 99% of the time, will state their "reasons" for cheating on the BS that does point the finger at the BS, no matter what they say.
Ok, fine. So after reading such posts some will explain that they are in reconciliation. And if they can do it, great. I wish them luck. But then I read things like the BS understood what the WS was going through. So they both work together to save the marriage.
After the WS blames the cheating on what their BS did or didn't do, BS somehow accepts this, the big elephant that I speak of is there is a huge imbalance, to me it would be anyway, in that one of them got gratification with someone else, or others, outside of the marriage.
I'm sure there are some BS that don't even let that enter their minds if in reconciliation. But for others, like me, even if I decided to put my all into a marriage after cheating, I'd feel like they got to go out and have their fun and got away with it.
No, I am absolutely not suggesting anything like the BS gets a hall pass, because I don't condone that one iota.
But for those of you that are reconciling, but not successful yet or not sure if you will be, how do you deal with that imbalance? That huge elephant in the room that is knowing your spouse F'd someone else? And if revenge cheating isn't in your plans, as it should NOT be, how do you overcome this imbalance of knowing you were completely faithful, and your spouse got to have their little fun?
Ok, fine. So after reading such posts some will explain that they are in reconciliation. And if they can do it, great. I wish them luck. But then I read things like the BS understood what the WS was going through. So they both work together to save the marriage.
After the WS blames the cheating on what their BS did or didn't do, BS somehow accepts this, the big elephant that I speak of is there is a huge imbalance, to me it would be anyway, in that one of them got gratification with someone else, or others, outside of the marriage.
I'm sure there are some BS that don't even let that enter their minds if in reconciliation. But for others, like me, even if I decided to put my all into a marriage after cheating, I'd feel like they got to go out and have their fun and got away with it.
No, I am absolutely not suggesting anything like the BS gets a hall pass, because I don't condone that one iota.
But for those of you that are reconciling, but not successful yet or not sure if you will be, how do you deal with that imbalance? That huge elephant in the room that is knowing your spouse F'd someone else? And if revenge cheating isn't in your plans, as it should NOT be, how do you overcome this imbalance of knowing you were completely faithful, and your spouse got to have their little fun?
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