Ok, so I posted my long drawn out background story in previous thread on "considering divorce", so I'm not going to bore everyone with that again here. But now I have another question.
Besides all of the other dysfunction in my marriage, my husband has started to accuse me of basically of cheating. ITs been slowly getting worse over a year.
He doesn't want me doing anything with my girlfriends, whom majority are happily married. Even if it's something like taking my daughter to an Easter Egg hunt with a friend and her child, I get accused of cheating. With my 4 year old daughter in tow... Really?
I backed into a mailbox accidentally, and H takes car body shop. The worker said it looked like a garage door came down on to it. Now I get accused of going to a man's house and hiding my car in his garage. Again, is is during a time my daughter would be with me. He's genuinely angry, and my disbelief towards him only makes me appear "guilty". Sigh...
My daughter is very technically savvy, as all little ones are these days. Yesterday she had my phone when I was in the bathroom, and text messaged him with icons: a heart, kissy face, PUPPY DOG, CAT, BALLOON, and present icons. I capitalized the ones that seem absolutely ridiculous for a 42 year old woman to be texting their "lover." He answered in a tirade. I was "texting someone else and accidentally sent it to him." It would be laughable if it weren't so ugly.
I fold laundry in the spare bedroom often. A pair of my sleep shorts got under the pillow somehow when I was folding. He found them. Now I get accused of "screwing someone" in the spare bedroom.
I can go on and on with these ridiculous accusations. I've never strayed from my husband, not once. We rarely have sex. It all stopped once I became pregnant 4 years ago. It had nothing to do with my changing body, he went from wanting it too much, to not all as SOON as I read that pregnancy stick.
I exercise and am good shape, and have not let myself go. In fact I look better than he does as far as that goes. We have had sex maybe 15-20 times, ( I'm leaning more towards 15), since I became pregnant. My daughter is 4. I also lost all forms of affection from him, unless I come up to him for a hug or peck.
I am on eggshells with this man. I really feel for him to be so accusing, over the stupidest things, that HE must be doing things on the side himself. That HIS guilt is what's causing this mistrust of me. Today after the texting incident by my daughter, I'm angry. I'm sick of it. He doesn't see it, he won't communicate, nothing. I feel most men don't go that long without finding sex somewhere?
My question is, does this appear to be a case where he is actually the one cheating, so he mistrusts me because he knows what he is doing behind my back? I feel like I'm going out of my mind today. I worry what the next thing will be that he pulls out of thin air to accuse me of.
Besides all of the other dysfunction in my marriage, my husband has started to accuse me of basically of cheating. ITs been slowly getting worse over a year.
He doesn't want me doing anything with my girlfriends, whom majority are happily married. Even if it's something like taking my daughter to an Easter Egg hunt with a friend and her child, I get accused of cheating. With my 4 year old daughter in tow... Really?
I backed into a mailbox accidentally, and H takes car body shop. The worker said it looked like a garage door came down on to it. Now I get accused of going to a man's house and hiding my car in his garage. Again, is is during a time my daughter would be with me. He's genuinely angry, and my disbelief towards him only makes me appear "guilty". Sigh...
My daughter is very technically savvy, as all little ones are these days. Yesterday she had my phone when I was in the bathroom, and text messaged him with icons: a heart, kissy face, PUPPY DOG, CAT, BALLOON, and present icons. I capitalized the ones that seem absolutely ridiculous for a 42 year old woman to be texting their "lover." He answered in a tirade. I was "texting someone else and accidentally sent it to him." It would be laughable if it weren't so ugly.
I fold laundry in the spare bedroom often. A pair of my sleep shorts got under the pillow somehow when I was folding. He found them. Now I get accused of "screwing someone" in the spare bedroom.
I can go on and on with these ridiculous accusations. I've never strayed from my husband, not once. We rarely have sex. It all stopped once I became pregnant 4 years ago. It had nothing to do with my changing body, he went from wanting it too much, to not all as SOON as I read that pregnancy stick.
I exercise and am good shape, and have not let myself go. In fact I look better than he does as far as that goes. We have had sex maybe 15-20 times, ( I'm leaning more towards 15), since I became pregnant. My daughter is 4. I also lost all forms of affection from him, unless I come up to him for a hug or peck.
I am on eggshells with this man. I really feel for him to be so accusing, over the stupidest things, that HE must be doing things on the side himself. That HIS guilt is what's causing this mistrust of me. Today after the texting incident by my daughter, I'm angry. I'm sick of it. He doesn't see it, he won't communicate, nothing. I feel most men don't go that long without finding sex somewhere?
My question is, does this appear to be a case where he is actually the one cheating, so he mistrusts me because he knows what he is doing behind my back? I feel like I'm going out of my mind today. I worry what the next thing will be that he pulls out of thin air to accuse me of.
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