Yesterday I was listening to the Dan Savage podcast and a guy called in saying his partner had a Fireman fantasy and so he went all out to fulfill the fantasy - even bought a sledge hammer. This guy was lamenting that his partner didn't seem to want to reciprocate. His fantasy was that his partner would be "more dominant" in the bedroom and generally initiate more.
Dan's advice was this: your partner doesn't know what your fantasy is if all you're saying is "be more dominant and initiate more." A fireman fantasy has a built in "checklist" of things you can do - fireman hat, crackling fire sound track, sledgehammer strip tease, etc. but when you ask your partner to "initiate more" they don't know exactly what you're asking because they don't know what they are supposed to do. Grab your junk? Send you sexy texts? Put on lingerie?
Guys, you want your wife to be specific with requests and this is a case where you need to do that for her to.
Dan's advice was this: your partner doesn't know what your fantasy is if all you're saying is "be more dominant and initiate more." A fireman fantasy has a built in "checklist" of things you can do - fireman hat, crackling fire sound track, sledgehammer strip tease, etc. but when you ask your partner to "initiate more" they don't know exactly what you're asking because they don't know what they are supposed to do. Grab your junk? Send you sexy texts? Put on lingerie?
Guys, you want your wife to be specific with requests and this is a case where you need to do that for her to.
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