Wife and I have had numerous talks (with and without anger involved) about our sex life. I feel like I am romantic, especially for a guy. Flowers, compliments, date nights etc... Our dating life was filled with booze-laced romps and a quite diverse sex life. We tried things, suggested things, listened to what each other wanted and tried them. Then we got married... since then she has not said a single thing about what she likes/wants. Doesn't want to do the things I like/want anymore.
During and after our talks she apologizes and says she will work on it, but rarely does much change. She will initiate once or twice in the couple weeks after our talks, but once again it fizzles.
I have continued my husband duties of date nights, flowers, compliments, jewelry, recently put a down payment on a custom 2015 car for her... yet don't feel rewarded or that she is grateful. I don't like feeling like a bad guy asking her to do things she readily did (and/or suggested herself) when we were dating, but that is what it has come to. By the way none of this is violent or dangerous, general bedroom stuff. I have sent her articles from Cosmo with "Tips from Guys" and things of that nature and dare her to try a few and rarely does she make the effort to read them. Asked her point blank what she would like to try, anything she might be interested in, and her response is "I don't know", which is hard to imagine since I can think of so many things I enjoy. She rarely contributes new ideas or shows excitement. Feel like there is no romance in her, which is odd because I am the husband.
During and after our talks she apologizes and says she will work on it, but rarely does much change. She will initiate once or twice in the couple weeks after our talks, but once again it fizzles.
I have continued my husband duties of date nights, flowers, compliments, jewelry, recently put a down payment on a custom 2015 car for her... yet don't feel rewarded or that she is grateful. I don't like feeling like a bad guy asking her to do things she readily did (and/or suggested herself) when we were dating, but that is what it has come to. By the way none of this is violent or dangerous, general bedroom stuff. I have sent her articles from Cosmo with "Tips from Guys" and things of that nature and dare her to try a few and rarely does she make the effort to read them. Asked her point blank what she would like to try, anything she might be interested in, and her response is "I don't know", which is hard to imagine since I can think of so many things I enjoy. She rarely contributes new ideas or shows excitement. Feel like there is no romance in her, which is odd because I am the husband.
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