Hello,
I'm fairly new here and won't go into my whole situation, but if you'd like to read a bit of background on my multiple marital problems, please read my other posts in the general discussion area.
I need advice fast on this new development because my husband and I are headed to our second marriage counseling session tomorrow and I would like to know how to bring this up, if at all.
I looked at our shared cell phone usage today and saw that he texted and called an escort service while on a business trip this week. Specifically, last night at 3 a.m. There was one text sent by him, then three in response by the escort. Also a short phone call in response by my husband. He isn't home yet so I can't go through his phone to see what they wrote to each other, but I'm sure it really doesn't matter at this point.
I know the number is an escort service because I googled it and it was on an escort forum.
This is especially troubling to me because I have a higher sex drive than him and he has low testosterone and is on anti-depressants so he rarely wants to have sex. If he wanted to have sex -- he knows I'm very willing! And I'm not out of shape, take care of myself, believe I am attractive, etc. I also am not a prude and am very open sexually -- in the past we've tried many things together.
Should I confront him while at our counseling session tomorrow afternoon? Or should I do it in private?
I think if I do it in front of the therapist we will have a professional mediator, and I will have no choice but to remain calm and have help getting to the root of the problem(s). However, if I do, he may leave the session because he felt 'put on the spot.'
I also don't know if this matters but we don't have any kids, and have been married over 10 years. Oh, and I've NEVER cheated on him.
Thanks so much in advance for your input!
I'm fairly new here and won't go into my whole situation, but if you'd like to read a bit of background on my multiple marital problems, please read my other posts in the general discussion area.
I need advice fast on this new development because my husband and I are headed to our second marriage counseling session tomorrow and I would like to know how to bring this up, if at all.
I looked at our shared cell phone usage today and saw that he texted and called an escort service while on a business trip this week. Specifically, last night at 3 a.m. There was one text sent by him, then three in response by the escort. Also a short phone call in response by my husband. He isn't home yet so I can't go through his phone to see what they wrote to each other, but I'm sure it really doesn't matter at this point.
I know the number is an escort service because I googled it and it was on an escort forum.
This is especially troubling to me because I have a higher sex drive than him and he has low testosterone and is on anti-depressants so he rarely wants to have sex. If he wanted to have sex -- he knows I'm very willing! And I'm not out of shape, take care of myself, believe I am attractive, etc. I also am not a prude and am very open sexually -- in the past we've tried many things together.
Should I confront him while at our counseling session tomorrow afternoon? Or should I do it in private?
I think if I do it in front of the therapist we will have a professional mediator, and I will have no choice but to remain calm and have help getting to the root of the problem(s). However, if I do, he may leave the session because he felt 'put on the spot.'
I also don't know if this matters but we don't have any kids, and have been married over 10 years. Oh, and I've NEVER cheated on him.
Thanks so much in advance for your input!
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