I've lived with my housemate for almost 2 years but I've known him for almost 4. Pretty much since I first met him I suspected/assumed he was gay but it seemed rude to confront him on it. I dont think he has officially told other people in our social group and he has never said anything to me. I think he has told my other housemate since, when drunk, the other housemate said me and the first housemate needed to have a talk since there was stuff he needed to talk to me about. I have tried to give him the opportunity to come out but he never has. I was told recently by one of our mutual friends that my housemate is definitely gay since he has been talking/opening up to the mutual friends gay housemate where apparently he said that, while his parents and friends at home all know, he's been afraid to come out to me and our group of friends since he thinks I'm homophobic and is worried about how I will react. I would like to clarify that while I would in no wa y consider myself homophobic, I acknowledge that some of the things I say in jest could give off that impression. Aside from making an effort not to say anything which gives off a homophobic vibe, are there any recommendations on how to approach this? Should I just confront him on it and try to assure him that I dont mind he is gay or should I try and subtly try to let him know that I really don't mind and hope he tells me in his own time? I think it would be better for it to be out in the open sooner rather than later so that he can then tell everyone else (since the impression I have gotten is that I'm the only one he's worried about).
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