First of all let me tell you that is not my intention to open old wounds or insult other users because I will be mentioning some TAM users to exemplify my theory.
for years before oficially joining TAM I was a lurker devoring and Reading every case of infidelity I was able to find in forums like: love shack. Marriage Builders, TAM, Marriage helpers, experience Project, etc.
I realized the once the woman is emotionally engaged with OM the affair will become PA unless OM backs down, yes we know the , methods as exposure and contacting OM's partner but even with all of this, if OM is still willing to pursue the WW the affair will become physica eventually.
there was a case in love shack if remember correctly (it was in my time as lurker, so I did not followed the cases properly atthe time) where the BS found about an EA, his wife who was bartender was texting all the time a man who was after her, the OM was married.
Well long story short, he did everything correctly, exposure to family, friends and OM's wife, GPS in the phone, VAR in the car, and she promised to stop comntacting OM, of course she keep contacting him, he finally kicked her out, she went to a motel, but he keep monitring her and found that OM went shortly to the Motel, he inmediatly called OM's wife and she went also to the motel, they called the police but they refused to leave the room.
They spend the night together and of course both denied intercourse, both invented stupid excuses, OM's wife was inclined to believe them (after many hours of excuses from her husband) but the OP was sure they had intercourse, after many events, lies she confessed (because her husband tricked her) and they were finally ready to reconcile and she stoped contacting OM.
now at the time I thought this was an Isoleted event but I have seen that this situation repeats alot, once the woman in emotionally engaged to OM, if he keep pursuing her without caring for the consequences most likely he will take her to bed, we have also some examples in TAM:
"HerHusband" found about the EA and tried to everything in the book, including exposure to their own sons and finally kicked her out and she went directly to OM arms, in this case OM was single so he had no reason to back down (she eventually returned to Herhusband but after the affair became physical)
"devastateddad" he did not expose the EA, but he kicked her out for a while, he confronted OM and he promised to stop, CM and DevastatedDad cried alot and even begin a kind of R, but OM keep presuing CM and we know what happened.
"Mr Mathias" kind of the same, he found out before it was full intercourse, confronted Mrs Mathias and OM but OM keep pursuing her and again it happened.
so it looks like unless exposure affects significantly OM to make him back down, if he keep pursuing a woman already emotionally engaged with him, the affair will become physical eventually.
what do you think?
for years before oficially joining TAM I was a lurker devoring and Reading every case of infidelity I was able to find in forums like: love shack. Marriage Builders, TAM, Marriage helpers, experience Project, etc.
I realized the once the woman is emotionally engaged with OM the affair will become PA unless OM backs down, yes we know the , methods as exposure and contacting OM's partner but even with all of this, if OM is still willing to pursue the WW the affair will become physica eventually.
there was a case in love shack if remember correctly (it was in my time as lurker, so I did not followed the cases properly atthe time) where the BS found about an EA, his wife who was bartender was texting all the time a man who was after her, the OM was married.
Well long story short, he did everything correctly, exposure to family, friends and OM's wife, GPS in the phone, VAR in the car, and she promised to stop comntacting OM, of course she keep contacting him, he finally kicked her out, she went to a motel, but he keep monitring her and found that OM went shortly to the Motel, he inmediatly called OM's wife and she went also to the motel, they called the police but they refused to leave the room.
They spend the night together and of course both denied intercourse, both invented stupid excuses, OM's wife was inclined to believe them (after many hours of excuses from her husband) but the OP was sure they had intercourse, after many events, lies she confessed (because her husband tricked her) and they were finally ready to reconcile and she stoped contacting OM.
now at the time I thought this was an Isoleted event but I have seen that this situation repeats alot, once the woman in emotionally engaged to OM, if he keep pursuing her without caring for the consequences most likely he will take her to bed, we have also some examples in TAM:
"HerHusband" found about the EA and tried to everything in the book, including exposure to their own sons and finally kicked her out and she went directly to OM arms, in this case OM was single so he had no reason to back down (she eventually returned to Herhusband but after the affair became physical)
"devastateddad" he did not expose the EA, but he kicked her out for a while, he confronted OM and he promised to stop, CM and DevastatedDad cried alot and even begin a kind of R, but OM keep presuing CM and we know what happened.
"Mr Mathias" kind of the same, he found out before it was full intercourse, confronted Mrs Mathias and OM but OM keep pursuing her and again it happened.
so it looks like unless exposure affects significantly OM to make him back down, if he keep pursuing a woman already emotionally engaged with him, the affair will become physical eventually.
what do you think?
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