| I have detailed things about my wifes past EA's (main one of concern was in 2008), I think the bulk of it may have been under a previous account, I can't remember tbh. Anyway, I can't get out of my head something which my wife said during an argument about it a few months ago. I had brought up the question of whether she was still 100% sure that she made the right choice in staying with me, as I sometimes get the feeling she regrets it. She told me that she was happy etc, but that looking back on the time it all happened, that I pretty much took the decision out of her hands. A day or 2 after I found out and confronted her, I pretty much said "I don't know what I'll do if you leave me", and I either indicated, or maybe even outright said (I cant remember exactly), that I may kill myself if she left. Thinking about what she said (and what I said back then in 2008), I was obviously not thinking straight, as my world had been turned upside down. I doubt I would have committed suicide, but I guess at the time I was in shock, so I was saying anything to get her to stay. At the time, she went to stay at a friends for a weekend, having no contact with either of us- to 'make her decision'. I was so weak, I was willing to let her come back if she wanted to. With hindsight, i would have been a lot firmer etc (thanks TAM, but I discovered you a bit too late!). What I have been wondering for the last few months is- if I hadn't given her the guilt trip, would she still have decided to stay, or would I have been divorced by now? :scratchhead: | |||
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